More and more often you can meet people who do not know how to accept compliments at all and react to them with aggression.
Has anyone thought about why this happens?
Therefore, it is worth remembering several reasons that can tell a lot about a person.
Self-criticism is the root of the problem
Self-critical people often doubt themselves and their abilities. Even when they receive a compliment, they tend to brush it off because they do not believe in their worthiness.
For them, recognizing their own merits becomes an impossible task due to the constant internal critic.
Fear of expectations
Accepting a compliment can create a sense of obligation or need for some people to reciprocate the recognition.
This fear of expectations and reciprocity can be so strong that they will choose to simply decline the compliment to avoid further commitment.
Unaccustomed to praise
For some people, accepting a compliment may be unusual, especially if they have not had much positive attention or support in their past.
They may feel uncomfortable or even illegitimate when receiving praise, as it disrupts their normal way of thinking about themselves.
As a rule, this directly affects self-esteem. A simple example: if a person is not at all confident in his abilities, he will definitely not be able to calmly accept a compliment addressed to him.
Fear of comparison
Some people are afraid to accept compliments for fear of being compared to others.
They may worry that accepting a compliment implies agreeing with an assessment of themselves in comparison to someone else, which may cause dissatisfaction or feelings of inferiority.
This reason may seem pointless, but it is definitely worth highlighting because it plays a key role.
Feelings of inferiority
Also, accepting a compliment can be a reminder of their own feelings of inferiority.
They may believe that they do not deserve praise or that compliments are simply an attempt to deceive someone or maintain a false impression of them.
And there is a completely rational reason for this. For example, there is a type of people who are ready to flatter in order to get a certain benefit.
Therefore, pleasant words can be perceived simply as flattery, which has nothing to do with reality.
Earlier we talked about why long-term relationships don’t work out.
