There are many lonely people today. No, they have friends, acquaintances, good jobs and much more.
But there is no other half.
Let's take a closer look at the reasons why people remain lonely.
Career comes first
If a successful career takes the leading position in a person’s life plans, then it is not surprising that he cannot find his soulmate.
Studying, delving into the intricacies of the work and studying the necessary documentation, and the ideal execution of each assigned task – this takes a lot of time and effort.
Therefore, there is simply nothing left to search for your other half. There is often not even a spark of desire to start searching.
To solve this problem, you will have to reconsider your life plans. What is more important: a successful career or a loved one nearby...
After an honest answer to this question, you can already reconsider your busy work schedule. Either leave it as is, or find more time to arrange your personal life.
"He/she will find me on their own!"
Surprisingly, this is a fairly common belief among people. But, to your great disappointment, no one will run to your door and loudly announce: "I found you (or found you)! You are my precious soulmate!" Today you will have to look for your happiness on your own. Otherwise, this happiness simply will not know that you are looking for it.
There is only one exception to this rule - if you occupy a fairly prominent place in society. That is, you are a successful businessman, banker, diplomat, even a pop star, and so on. Then yes, there will be a line of candidates for attention and building a family life at your door.
Attitude towards oneself
One of the factors that has a powerful, hidden influence on building successful relationships.
If you have low or high self-esteem, it is impossible to build normal relationships with the opposite sex.
With low self-esteem, a person will try to be better than he is. As a result, there will come a time when he will not be able to maintain the set “high bar” in the relationship. This often leads to great disappointment in himself.
And if your self-esteem is too high, those around you will think that such a person is boorish and thinks too much of himself.
Few people will have the desire to communicate with such a person. And the collective "singing" of the clingers can only increase disappointment in the surrounding world and in people.
Complete lack of requirements for a future partner
It is known that too high or too low demands can leave a person with nothing.
But few people know that a complete lack of requirements for a candidate for a place in your heart is also not a very good thing.
After all, if a person does not know what he wants to see in his partner, he will become "led" in the search. A stranger, relative or best friend can impose their vision of the ideal partner.
This often leads to sad consequences: a stranger can start a passionate affair and eventually leave, and an imposed “ideal” from relatives and friends can lead to a marriage that no one needs.
Unwillingness to build a serious relationship
A normal reaction for every person who has had a negative experience in close relationships. For example, a negative experience with parents or close friends, or a painful breakup with a previous partner.
If a person has this fear, he will intuitively avoid even the slightest chance to build strong relationships with potential partners.
To solve this problem, professionals recommend dealing with the past and working through fears and psychological trauma.
