We all learn from mistakes, but some of us still tend to make the same mistakes over and over again.
And then be surprised that the desired results are not achieved.
What are the most common mistakes we make in relationships?
An unrealized threat
This is one of those mistakes that you should definitely avoid.
You want him to take you seriously, but you always threaten something and never follow through or only briefly? And you are still surprised that he no longer responds to your threats and ignores them?
There are things that are deeply troubling you and you want our partner to know about them and respond accordingly.
For example, infidelity. A woman threatens a man that if he cheats on her, she will leave him immediately. One day, she finds out about his betrayal. After a few scenes, she forgives and the relationship continues. Of course, he will understand that he has remained unpunished and will repeat everything again.
As a result, there will still be a break in relations. That is, in this case, the man is completely frivolous about her threats, because he knows that he will ask for forgiveness, receive it, and the woman will probably never carry out her threat. And so in all other cases.
So if you can't carry out your threats, at least don't make them at all. You're only cutting yourself off by doing so.
You get completely immersed in the relationship
Falling in love is a wonderful euphoric feeling, and you want to be one in body and soul with your partner all the time.
However, if you want to maintain a lively interest in your partner, you cannot be constantly available and completely dedicated to this feeling only after the first few meetings.
If this happens, one of the two will quickly burn out. You start a relationship thinking that this is your other half, and you become available and even intrusive, and then you wonder why the interest has disappeared.
You still want to be appreciated, but ask yourself if you appreciate what you have in abundance?
If you want to be number one for your partner, so that he strives for you and has a desire to spend time with you, then you should not throw yourself at his feet right after the first date.
You adapt too much.
Each of us should have our own values, priorities, boundaries and needs.
One of the partners (usually the woman), whether at the initial stage of the relationship or during its course, quite often begins to adapt and sacrifice their interests, just to fit into the life of their partner.
The second partner gets used to this and then it is difficult to change anything during the relationship.
A life in which everything revolves around one partner, and you are the one who must constantly adapt to everything, will sooner or later cease to suit even the most unpretentious person.
Another possible effect is that your value to your partner may decrease.
He doesn't need to think about anything, he feels that you will do everything to adapt to him, he will become lazy and stop appreciating you.
You constantly point out your partner's shortcomings
Again, this is more typical for women: when they lack something or don’t like something, they always point it out and demand changes.
Complaining that you are not given time or that you are not helped around the house will only make the unwanted things worse.
First, you have to change your attitude. In this case, focus on what you like about your partner or what he or she did well. And then praise, praise, praise.
If you are invited to an exceptionally pleasant dinner or prepared at home in a romantic setting, never say, "Well, finally," but express your admiration and joy.
In the first case, your partner will feel that you do not appreciate him, he may object, get angry and tell himself that you are ungrateful, and next time he will not take any action at all.
In the second case, he feels appreciated, he is proud of making his other half happy, and since men need to be praised, he will be happy to take you somewhere again, because he knows you will appreciate it. And so on in all other cases.
The good news is that all of the things mentioned are things that we can consciously influence and decide how we will approach these situations.
The fact that you take into account at least one of the above points will have a positive impact on your partnerships.
Earlier we talked about what to do if a man doesn’t want to break up .
