Maintaining harmonious relationships in marriage is the primary task of both partners.
But some situations that happen to spouses almost every day can seriously shake the family. What should be carefully avoided in family life so that the union is strong?
Quarrels over trifles
In the first years of marriage, husband and wife usually do not pay attention to shortcomings related to everyday issues.
But over time, disagreements about order, cleaning, and distribution of duties become the cause of quarrels. If such discrepancies are minimal, do not dwell on them.
Your husband doesn't always wash his cup, puts his T-shirts on the wrong shelf? But he probably has other virtues that compensate for his sloppiness in everyday life. Remember them!
Conflict of interests
Disagreements about leisure activities are another cause of conflicts. How many quarrels occur when the husband, for example, goes fishing or meets with friends! Or the wife is going to visit her mother, and the husband does not want to accompany her.
Each spouse should have their own personal interests, and the other does not necessarily have to support them. To prevent the split from getting worse, it is worth finding common ground - leisure that will be interesting to both.
Old grudges
The past cannot be changed, and listing all the bad deeds, mistakes, and sins of your other half on any occasion does not help strengthen your relationship.
Especially if the person has not repeated them and has repented of what he did. Any manipulations that are aimed at causing a person to feel guilty only distance the spouses from each other. Forget about old grievances, otherwise they will sooner or later destroy your union.
Sarcastic remarks
Sometimes family life turns into a battlefield, where one of the spouses tries to humiliate the other: "What a husband, you can't even hammer a nail straight." "Wife, why are you tired? The machine washes the laundry itself!" etc.
If such phrases are heard in the house or, even worse, in the presence of relatives and friends, it means that the marriage has already begun to crack at the seams.
The only way to save him is to discuss all the points that both of you are unhappy with. Talk only about the facts that irritate you, without getting personal.
Dangerous Phrases
Some phrases, thrown out in passing in the heat of the moment, can provoke quarrels that gradually destroy a marriage.
- "It's all your fault!" Your husband forgot the right address, and you're already making your third lap around town? No big deal! Be smart - don't add fuel to the fire. Believe me, he's worried himself.
- "Let me show you how it's done." Prompts given in the heat of the moment, and especially those that hit your pride, hurt. They suggest: "You can't do anything!" Say it this way: "I have a suggestion - do you want me to tell you?"
- "I don't have time for this!" If your loved one has bought tickets to a movie or a concert, try to find time for this even in the busiest work schedule. Any minute spent together brings you closer to your partner and strengthens your relationship.
- "If you loved me..." ... you would do it. And then a list of 10 points. But someday there will come a moment when your partner will no longer succumb to your manipulations. And conflict will be inevitable.
Important! The desire of partners to take a break from each other for a while does not mean that love between them has ended.
All people need some time alone or to change their surroundings for a while. Therefore, if a person has such a need, it should simply be accepted.
Previously, it was reported what divorced women regret.
