Love separations are closely connected with pain and resentment.
However, the life of any person is unthinkable without negative experiences.
In fact, it has a lot of benefits.
With the help of negative experiences, we often come to the right conclusions, correct stupid mistakes and build our future lives in a new way.
Let us dwell in more detail on the conclusions to which this painful separation should lead us:
Don't try to remake the other half. It's impossible!
Most people become disillusioned in relationships because they initially choose the wrong partner.
When we fall in love, we see no flaws in the object of our adoration. But sooner or later, all these flaws come to light.
That's when the thought comes into our heads that our loved one will one day become better for us.
But there is no hope for improvement. Since neither we nor our partner want to work on ourselves, the love relationship comes to an end.
But, as they say, the past cannot be returned. This means that the next love union must be made wisely in order to avoid mistakes.
Don't idealize a person. Everyone is imperfect.
Yes, many of us like to endow our loved ones with the best qualities that they do not even have.
For example, girls think like this: all tall men should be strong and brave.
It turns out that it is the tall lover who will become a reliable protector and assistant.
But the reality is that even among the tall representatives of the stronger sex there are many cowards and egoists. It turns out that you shouldn't judge a book by its cover.
That is why it is necessary to pay attention to how your beloved behaves.
Words and actions will show whether a person truly loves you or not. Never endow the object of your adoration with some incredible qualities.
No matter how long you idealize a person, you will still have to find out what he or she is really like.
Thank fate for this meeting
Every person has some special feature that we ourselves lack. That is why an ex can teach us something new and useful.
Perhaps our ex-partner took difficult situations lightly. Perhaps he was doing something very interesting and enjoyed life like a child.
Every relationship has both negative and positive aspects.
For example, during the time you were together, you were lucky enough to visit several exhibitions and vacation abroad.
Remember these pleasant events forever, and throw all the bad things out of your head. Now nothing connects you both.
So why bring up old grievances when your ex-partner gave you so many positive moments?
Don't dissolve completely in the second half
As a rule, girls make this mistake. They often dissolve in their loved one. They listen to those musical performers that are on their boyfriend's track list.
They are into archery and football because their loved ones enjoy sports. There is nothing wrong with that, the main thing is not to lose your individuality.
Over time, men lose interest in accommodating and docile women. Don't worry if your interests and hobbies differ significantly.
In principle, this is how it should be. It is bad when a man and a woman mirror each other. Such relationships are doomed to a short existence.
Don't be so afraid of a possible breakup.
This point is probably the most important. Many couples break up, it is not fatal.
If your union did not work out, then you should not cling to your beloved with both hands.
Accept the fact that you will never find happiness with this person.
It is better to quickly break off a love affair than to suffer for many years in an unsuccessful marriage. This is mockery of yourself and your other half.
Believe me, you don't need unnecessary worries. It's easier to suffer for a few months than for the rest of your life.
You will still have a million brilliant opportunities. You will still have new happy relationships.
When you find your person, you will understand: this separation was necessary for you, because thanks to it a new door to a bright future opened for you!
