Both young families and those who have been together for several years are subject to divorce, dragging it out until the last minute, hoping for a bright future - that everything will change for the better and the old happy days and nights will return.
The most interesting fact is that it is the woman, the keeper of the family hearth, who most often initiates divorce.
Probably ladies are more decisive compared to men.
The first reason is the man's marital infidelity
This topic is as old as the world, but for most divorces, this is the reason for the breakup. Cheating is common to both men and women.
Apparently, nature assumes that "going left" is the norm of life. A man is a hunter by nature, conquering women quickly and with passion, and then very quickly losing interest.
Returns to the family circle, where he relaxes with his beloved wife, whiling away the time until new exploits. A woman rarely betrays, these betrayals involve the inner world.
Idle adventures can develop into love, and this is already dangerous.
Advice - if you first learned about your spouse's infidelity, do not rush to divorce. It is possible that this is a mistake, the man got into such a delicate situation for the first time and, moreover, repented, try to let this problem go and never stir it up.
If another betrayal follows, propose to live in an open marriage. That is, on equal terms - what the husband allows himself, the wife can allow herself.
Talk to your spouse frankly, without hysterics, perhaps this will work and the marriage will be saved. There will be peace and tranquility in the family again.
The second reason is that the woman's love has passed
Love is gone - sometimes this happens in a family. Misunderstandings arise in relationships, common interests disappear, life seems dull.
It is not necessarily that love has passed, a transformation has taken place - feelings have transformed into affection.
This development of events occurs after about five years of family life. A turning point in the marriage union occurs.
A man busy with his own business, work, may not even notice this. But a woman, seeing her husband's lenten face, three sad carnations once a year on March 8, wants to start a new life, because she is deprived of pleasant moments.
Kisses have turned into cold greetings, once passionate lovers have become just relatives existing in the same square. And suddenly at this moment a passionate admirer with a high fantasy will meet, with whom the woman is ready to go on a long voyage. And of course the idea of divorce becomes even more obsessive.
Advice - this woman will expect the same picture even if she marries for the tenth time. Everyone gets disappointed sometime.
Many people experience similar moments during this period, and love burns out, and there is a lack of romance, everyone is characterized by weakness. But when passions pass, something else remains that unites spouses - children, mutual friends or strong friendship.
Passion is unstable and impermanent, and no matter how much you want to maintain the past relationship, the result is the same - an inevitable decline occurs. In order not to destroy the family, you need to turn to a psychologist who will help renew the relationship.
