This refers to a moral duty, but not a material one.
If you borrow money, you are obliged to pay it back, this is not negotiable.
But there are many life situations in which you'd better forget about debts forever. Let's list 8 such circumstances:
Misconceptions about children's responsibilities
You don't have to live up to your father and mother's expectations.
Did your parents want you to behave differently in childhood, adolescence, youth? But that's their whim, not yours.
You have your own life script, and it definitely diverges from your parents. Don't give up on your desires. This life is entirely yours.
You don't have to follow the path that seems most beneficial to your ancestors.
When you were a child, your father and mother could punish you, forbid you something, scold you. But today they do not have such privileges, you cannot put an adult in the corner. And house arrest is no longer relevant at this age.
After all, your parents are the absolute masters of their own destiny. In their youth, they made mistakes, took risks, were stubborn, did things their own way. They have no right to deprive you of choice.
Study and work where you want. Live with the person you like. You can listen to the words of your father and mother only if you doubt the correctness of your decision.
You don't have to sit with your aging parents 24/7.
Of course, they will refer to lonely old age and the ill-fated glass of water.
Tell your parents that you will always help them if needed, but you will not serve them around the clock.
Now you need to enjoy life, learn new things, and get pleasure from your favorite things.
It is difficult to be a happy person, being in captivity with stubborn ancestors. Think about your own well-being, but do not forget about your relatives. Look for a reasonable balance.
Misconceptions about parental responsibilities
You don't have to stretch yourself to buy your kids the best toys and clothes.
You don't have enough money for a new radio-controlled car or a gaming console? Or maybe you can't buy your child new clothes and a crib?
There are a lot of used things of excellent quality on the sites with ads. Pay attention to these options and do not be ashamed. It is a shame to sit with your hands folded, and you are looking for something affordable.
You don't have to make all the decisions for your little one.
You are a wonderful parent - smart, mature, experienced. And yet your child must learn to be independent in some situations. You will not be able to take care of him until old age.
Try to remember what kind of child you were at his age. Surely restless, active and curious. Step aside and let your child decide what he wants to do: boxing or dancing.
Believe me, the section your baby chooses will be much more useful to him. Don't try to realize your own dream at the expense of a little person, he will suffer because of it.
You don't have to have a child if you don't want to.
Have you already managed to give birth to a baby? Then do not blame your other half, do not suffer from pangs of conscience and do not attack your child.
It is not guilty of anything. The fact has happened, love your child, he is your closest person.
Are you childless? And don't you dream of a house full of kids? Don't blame yourself, live the way you want. Spit on those who judge you. Everyone sees happiness differently. For you, it lies in freedom and self-care.
Other misconceptions
You don't have to sacrifice your interests to please someone else.
Even for the sake of big money and special advantages. There is nothing more precious than your own needs and principles. Never compromise on them! It is better to find a compromise that will suit both parties.
You don't have to share your plans with curious people.
You have the right to keep this information a secret if you don't want everyone to know about your bold plans. Are you eager to loosen your tongue?
Then don't torture yourself and share your intentions with a reliable person. Watch your listener's reaction carefully. This way you will understand whether you can trust him 100% or not.
In fact, you have certain obligations to your family and the state. Your duty is to respect and love your loved ones, to be a decent and independent individual.
You also must not forget about observing state laws and rules, moral standards. The rest of the things are at your discretion.
It happens that many individuals who do not follow elementary rules of conduct live wonderfully. But those who follow ridiculous conditions feel unhappy and devastated. Take care of your health and nerves, know your limits.
