Few women get along with their husbands' mothers.
Surveys confirm this: on average, 4 women out of 20 are friends with their mothers-in-law. The rest wage a bitter war with their hated relatives.
This conflict has been known for a long time. It has been going on for several centuries. Two women (mother and wife) are fighting for the attention of one man. You don't get along with the mother of your chosen one? But you want to find a common language with her?
Use these tips wisely and you will see how effective they are:
Learn to respect your mother-in-law as your own mother.
There is no one dearer to you than your mother, right?
This is her:
- treated you when you were sick;
- I bought you beautiful toys;
- I made a cake for your birthday;
- didn't sleep at night when you were teething;
- sang you a lullaby before bed;
- taught you to walk and talk;
- I put presents under the Christmas tree.
Your mother-in-law has also faced many motherly pains and joys. Do not doubt, your husband treats her with love and respect, as befits a caring son. He will never stop loving her, just as you will never stop loving your parent.
This is absolutely normal. The child grows up, but continues to cherish and respect his mother. No one will take her place in the heart.
What about the love between a man and a woman? It is a special connection in which partners accept each other with all their principles, oddities and imperfections.
Your task is to love your husband, to put up with his character, habits, work. And you should never fight with your chosen one's parents. Never forget this rule!
Respect your mother-in-law. She gave birth to your husband! So, you owe your acquaintance with your husband to this woman.
No one is forcing you to kiss and hug your mother-in-law every day. Just don't be rude or get into a verbal altercation.
Remember that your relative has more experience
And she lived for many years.
Perhaps you are a qualified specialist, and she is a simple village saleswoman who toils away in the garden, looks after the cattle and looks after the house. She has more worldly wisdom than you, one way or another, don't argue. You don't have to go to university to know that.
Household issues are her element. Your mother-in-law is three heads above you in this matter. Instead of getting angry and arguing, learn culinary and household tricks from her. Surely your mother-in-law will be pleased and soften.
Your mother-in-law raised your husband
This woman taught your husband to eat porridge in the morning and soup at lunch. This woman instilled in him a love of cleanliness, taught him to work in the garden, tie shoelaces and sharpen kitchen knives. A mother's contribution to a child's upbringing cannot be overestimated.
Listen to at least some of your mother-in-law's advice. She wants the best for you. She may be going too far. But believe me, she has no bad intentions.
Try to establish communication with the mother of the chosen one. She knows your husband's preferences better than anyone. If you do everything right, you will learn many interesting secrets from your mother-in-law.
Don't set your chosen one against his own mother
Be offended, be angry at your mother-in-law, but don't cross the line. There will be no turning back.
Don't complain to your husband about your mother-in-law, don't tell him how tough and authoritarian she is. That way you'll hurt yourself even more.
Remember: a loving son will never betray his dear mother. A husband can stand up for her, but not for you. At best, he will take a neutral position. Perhaps this is the best option for a man. Quarrelsome relatives should sort things out without his participation.
Prove to your wayward relative how strong your love is for her son
All mothers worry about their child's happiness. Your mother-in-law wants to see you as a reliable companion for her son. She is afraid that you will turn out to be a traitor or a deceiver.
It is in your power to show your grumpy relative the opposite. Take care of your husband, kiss him, hug him. And most importantly, do it in her presence.
