How to identify a man who is not ready for a serious relationship?
And what to do if a guy behaves like a schoolboy?
Unfortunately, age does not matter, so there is no hope that a person will suddenly change after some time.
There are several signs that will help you easily draw conclusions about the level of seriousness of your boyfriend and decide whether you are ready to take on the role of a leader and lead the way.
Some people enjoy being the one in charge and setting the goals in a relationship, and it's not always the man. Maybe that's you.
Unwillingness to perform current duties
There are guys who delegate all household chores to their girlfriend at the first opportunity. He doesn't want to make decisions, plan, or stress out in general.
If a girl agrees with this approach and takes on all the responsibilities, it is her decision and there is nothing wrong with that.
However, it is important to understand that in this case you should not count on sympathy and support from such a man.
Consult with your mother
Many men maintain a close relationship with their mother in one way or another. However, a mature, independent guy will not run to her for advice on every issue and compare you.
The problem for which there is no cure is obvious. All your decisions and actions will be assessed from the point of view of: "And what would my mother do?"... Criticism is unavoidable, that's for sure. In addition, your mother will probably become a frequent guest in your home.
Self-pity
A guy's tendency to blame everyone but himself is another sign of a lack of maturity. The following are to blame:
parents, for not giving him an apartment, a car, etc.;
friends who don't understand him;
the world around us is unfair, etc.
At the same time, they have a high opinion of themselves. But, to get down to real work, to try to change what does not suit them, is above their dignity.
They may sincerely believe that tomorrow a new job will appear, money will appear, or luck will suddenly smile upon them... However, nothing moves beyond talk and, most likely, it will always be like this.
Unwillingness to discuss problems
It is impossible to have or even start serious conversations about life and plans with such a guy.
He will avoid conversations on this topic, stop any attempts to discuss anything important for both of you and get angry if you still manage to "disturb his peace". Why? Yes, because he is bored and uninterested in this topic, especially constructive proposals with a hint of real action.
"You are too smart"
Immature men themselves run away from smart women. This panic fear is easy to explain. They come to understand that a smart and active woman will not leave them alone. Conditions will be created that are unacceptable for an infantile guy.
A smart girl will turn the situation so that he will have no choice but to obey and fulfill all her "wishes". And, he doesn't want to change.
It's much easier to go with the flow and not think about anything. What difference does it make what will happen tomorrow if it's quite comfortable now?
The principle: "you - to me, I - to you"
If a guy is not willing to selflessly show concern or at least say words of support when you are feeling bad, this is a sign of immaturity. He can only support you in response to your kind words.
"It's your problem"
Focusing on yourself will always come first. When you do everything to cheer up the guy and get rid of his melancholy, he will accept your impulse. And if you don’t do it in time, he will be offended. And it doesn’t matter what’s going on with you.
You may really need support here and now, but that's just your problem...
Such a person considers himself the main one and expects attention. Not receiving it in time, he will blame you!
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