Childhood experiences with her father have a huge impact on how a girl will build relationships with men in adulthood.
Depending on what kind of father she had - caring or, on the contrary, indifferent - the girl unconsciously looks for a similar partner and reproduces scenarios from her childhood.
A kind but weak-willed father
If the father was kind and caring, but at the same time weak and weak-willed, the daughter will most likely look for a man to whom she can give all the love that, in her opinion, the father was undeservedly deprived of.
In this way, she seems to be trying to compensate for the injustice that she feels her father experienced as a child because of his despotic mother.
At the same time, the girl will want to take revenge and defeat the "mother", so she will choose a married man or a womanizer. This choice is explained by the subconscious desire to defeat the mother in the fight for the father. The girl is ready to become a mistress, just to realize her childhood grievances.
The Absent Father
If the father abandoned the family or was emotionally cold to his daughter, she will look for guarantees and reliability. Such a man must take responsibility and become the support she did not have in childhood.
Girls with "absent father complex" are very vulnerable to beautiful promises and assurances of love.
They easily believe words without seeing real actions. Unfortunately, this often leads to choosing a manipulative partner who skillfully plays on her childhood traumas. A girl can tolerate deception and empty promises for years, just to not lose the illusion of reliability.
Secure attachment to father
If a girl grows up in an atmosphere of love and acceptance from her father, she develops a healthy relationship model. She values mutual respect and does not demand that a man solve her problems. She also knows how to establish boundaries and does not allow anyone to intrude into her personal responsibility zone.
At the same time, she is able to provide the necessary support to her partner, expecting the same in return. And if these expectations are not met, she is ready to break off the relationship.
Female psychology: illusions of men's perception
Women tend to see in a man not a real person, but some ideal image that exists in their imagination. However, over time, the illusion dissipates, and disappointment sets in.
Unlike men, who value specific qualities in a partner, women fall in love with the image and the emotions it gives. What matters to them is not so much what a man really is, but the impression he makes.
As long as the image matches expectations, the relationship develops successfully. But as soon as a man stops matching the ideal image, problems begin.
"Trial Period" Turns into Disappointment
Sometimes men offer a girl to just live together - to move in together to get to know each other better. At first glance, this is a reasonable proposal. But in practice, the "trial period" often ends in bitter disappointment for the girl.
She quits her job, moves in with a man, and begins to build a future together. And after a few months, she realizes that she made a fatal mistake, because he is in no hurry to propose.
Katya had to urgently return to her parents and re-enroll in the institute.
It is necessary to dispel illusions
To avoid such disappointments, it is important for a woman to dispel illusions in time and see a real person, not a fictitious image. It is worth meeting as early as possible not only in a cafe, but also at home, in an informal setting. This way it is easier to understand how compatible you are.
Also, you shouldn't rush into moving in with a man for the sake of a "trial period". It's better to first make sure that his intentions are serious.
And of course, it is important to learn to value not so much a man's external image, but his internal qualities. This will help build strong relationships based on reality, not illusions.
Earlier we wrote about why you shouldn’t date a married man.
