When starting a love relationship, many of us imagine a harmonious and happy picture of our future life.
Shouting and cursing rarely fit into our dreams.
But we are all different, so views on certain events may differ, and then conflict arises.
It is generally accepted that a quarrel is bad. In fact, such a dispute helps to understand the situation, look at two opinions at the same time and find a way out.
Another question is how to resolve the conflict with the least loss of emotional strength and stay together? This is what we will talk about.
Conflicts with your partner are normal and inevitable
Every person comes from his own family. It was there that certain views on life were laid down.
Even though we grow up and separate, we still tend to rely on childhood habits in some moments. Therefore, if you have decided to be together, remember that your partner has his own established views and rules.
If some habits irritate you, then changing them will be difficult, but still possible. Only calm conversations, cunning and time can erase all unpleasant character traits.
Ask your partner for his opinion
Share your story about possible concerns with the other person and ask them what they think about it.
It happens that we wind up the situation, see it in our own way. Perhaps there is no problem, and your partner's answer will calm you down. You can't take radical steps based on your own assumptions.
Take into account each other's temperaments
Quarrels can also proceed differently depending on the emotional makeup of the people involved.
If you know that after a certain time you break down or you know about this peculiarity of your loved one, keep this in mind.
Agree that as soon as a squabble occurs, it will be important to step away. At such a moment, it is worth taking a breath and looking at the situation from the outside.
If you understand that you won't be able to continue the conversation today, it's better to postpone everything until the next day. This will allow you to let go of emotions and look at the events with a "clear" head.
Perhaps this way you will come to an agreement faster. You should not focus on other people who always calmly resolve issues. Each couple has its own world.
There are no losers in the pair
It is important for each participant in the quarrel to remember that a couple is a team. No matter how much you want to blame the other person for all the problems that have arisen, the result of your communication should be a mutual conclusion. It is better to join forces and find a suitable solution.
Listen to each other
Each partner has the right to be heard and understood. Sometimes, hushing up a problem leads to apathy in one of the people, which affects mutual dissatisfaction with the relationship.
Partners may not be aware of what is causing the other person's sadness and pain.
Listen to your other half and don't interrupt. Then speak up yourself. Maybe that's all it takes to get things going.
All these tips will help those who are ready to consciously approach conflict situations, want to stay in a couple and not strive to separate.
But it is also worth understanding that conflicts help to see the real picture that is happening between partners.
During the showdown, you can get to know a person as he really is. And only after that does it make sense to decide whether you are ready to continue going together or not.
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