Any relationship between a man or a woman necessarily contains disagreements and conflicts.
Unfortunately, we can’t do without this, because each person has their own unique character, their own worldview and taste.
If difficult situations arise in a couple, it is not at all necessary to quarrel or, even more so, break up. You can get out of every conflict calmly.
Psychologists talk about 10 universal ways to resolve disagreements that can and should be applied in life.
Responsibility of both partners
In every conflict, both partners must take responsibility for the situation. Blaming and deflecting blame will only lead to a dead end, because in this case, any communication will cease.
Everyone must understand what exactly their fault was in the conflict that occurred. Then they need to work on solving these mistakes together.
The need for sacrifices
Relationships are always work and effort. This is a well-known truth, but not everyone knows that relationships are also sacrifices. Healthy love implies periodic sacrifices in order to please your other half.
Problem solving
Any problem needs to be immediately "looked in the face" and solved. If one partner keeps silent about something only because he or she is afraid of a serious conversation, then the problem will eventually turn into a huge "snowball" of troubles.
When talking and discussing a difficult moment, you need to speak from your own perspective, that is, not “you are guilty,” but “I don’t like it.” This will help you avoid accusations and give you the opportunity to look at the situation from a different angle.
Maintaining dignity
If the conversation gets too emotional, don't try to prove your point or defend your point of view. At such moments, it's better to just listen to your other half and give them time to calm down.
If you continue to press, you can hurt the feelings and dignity of a person. You should not stoop to this in a relationship where love is at stake.
Definition of motivation
Before resolving any conflict, it is important to understand your own motivation for the words and actions that caused it.
For example, if a quarrel arose because the husband does not give money, then it is worth figuring out what is really missing: money and gifts or attention.
Gesture control
When speaking, you need to pay special attention to your gestures and body language. This only seems unimportant and unnoticeable at first glance, but in a conversation it can have a great impact on its outcome.
You must not keep your hands in your pockets or crossed over your chest. You must never turn away from your interlocutor!
Lack of criticism
Even in moments of quarrels, you need to be on the same side of the barricades with your partner. If you switch to criticism at such moments, you can seriously ruin your relationship.
There is a fundamental difference between the thoughts and phrases "He did it because he was wrong" and "He did it because he is a bad person." Do not forget that your other half is not an enemy, but an ally.
Honesty and sincerity
These two concepts are the key to not only a healthy relationship, but also a quick and successful resolution of disagreements in a couple. You need to honestly admit everything that bothers you and that you don’t like.
It is worth remembering that lies insult and humiliate a person. If the straightforward truth can offend your other half, you should not keep silent about it. You just need to choose the right and soft words.
Open communication
The vast majority of problems originate from a lack of communication. No one can read minds, and some people don't even understand hints. And where is the guarantee that they will be understood correctly? Therefore, only talk and only open communication!
Accepting differences
And it is worth learning for yourself once and for all that disagreements are a constant value in relationships. Some people try to change each other, spending their whole lives on it. They are only wasting time, because nothing will come of it except conflicts.
We need to accept each other completely and entirely, with all the shortcomings and advantages. It is only important to behave in such a way as not to offend the person who is next to us and to give him pleasure.
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