Who doesn't know how painful breakups can be?
It is especially hard to separate after several years of marriage. And the longer the period of living together, the harder it is to survive a divorce.
How to avoid mistakes after a divorce so that your future life does not turn into a nightmare?
Cheating with ex's best friend
This often comes to mind for ladies who have been dumped. Sometimes they want to take revenge in this way after a man has cheated on them.
Psychologists do not recommend doing this, even if you really want to. The probability that you will regret it later is too high. You cannot use people at your whim.
After this momentary whim, you will certainly lose this person's favor, even if he initially wanted to support you.
Guilt
Very often after a breakup, women spend a long time going over in their heads all the circumstances that contributed to the distance and end of the relationship. They think that everything could have been done differently, they start to blame themselves and go deeper into depression.
Don't paint optimistic pictures of what could have been. It's worth understanding and accepting the fact that a break in communication is a problem of two people, not just one. It means that your chosen one didn't pay attention in time or didn't want to react in the right way to improve your connection.
Both partners must work on the relationship. Only then is there every chance to maintain the marriage for as long as desired.
If this does not happen, then the cracked relationship gradually fades away. It is better to admit your mistakes, draw conclusions and live on without feeling guilty and blaming your partner for all the sins.
An open door to past relationships
What does this mean? If you want to start a new life and live happily, the first thing you need to do is consciously remove from your sight everything that reminds you of your ex-husband. You can't look at shared photos, walk around memorable places where you often went together, etc.
Why torment yourself with memories if everything has already been decided and a new stage in your life is beginning? All these experiences only spoil the mood and lead to suffering. Getting out of them is much harder than getting there.
Therefore, it is better to immediately show will and awareness. While everything is too fresh and hurts the soul, put away all the photos and objects that remind you of the previous relationship as far away as possible. Later, you will be able to take them out, look at them... but not with pain and tears, but with a feeling of gratitude for all the good that was between you.
Emotions for the public
Often ladies like to make themselves look insulted, playing out a whole theatrical drama. They throw tantrums in public, shocking not only their ex-husband, but also all those involved or just people they barely know.
This drawing of strangers into your relationship with a stream of dirt and accusations has never led to anything good for anyone.
Excessive emotionality, exaggeration and aggressive behavior will cause a negative response from others. They will simply decide that you are crazy and will limit communication. So you will not only lose the respect of your ex-husband, but also scare off your entire social circle. Who will benefit from this?
It is easy to earn a reputation as a capricious and inadequate person, but it will be almost impossible to regain people’s trust and affection.
Monitor social networks, write and call
If you have decided to break up, then don't pick at the heartache. What difference does it make how he lives, who he dates, etc.? What will it change?
Spying on his posts and photos, monitoring his online presence, etc. only prevents him from taking time off to take care of himself. Let each of you now go your own way and find your own happiness.
Of course, it is impossible to break the connection and attachment in one day, but giving yourself hope, maintaining interest in him is not only an empty occupation, but also harmful.
Earlier we talked about the unpleasant moments that can cause a man to lose his beloved .
