A well-known proverb says that when lovers quarrel, it is only to make up.
But in reality this is not always the case - sometimes making peace after a fight can be quite difficult.
Both partners may have a strong sense of pride that prevents them from taking the first step towards reconciliation.
This is especially true for women - the fair sex usually expects the man to take the initiative.
But what to do if time passes and your loved one doesn't even think about making peace? In this case, a woman has several options on what to do.
When can you take initiative?
It should be emphasized right away that the first woman should not make peace in all cases. And it is not only a matter of pride, but also of expediency.
It makes sense for you to do something to reconcile with your lover if:
- the quarrel that occurred is more your fault than his;
- he already tried to make peace, but you didn't want to;
- there are good reasons to think that the man is waiting for you to make the first move and will be glad to reconcile;
- in general, your lover's attitude towards you can be called good;
- the reason for the quarrel was a serious offense committed by you;
- During the argument you said a lot of unnecessary things to him and now you want to apologize.
But in some situations, a woman should categorically not make the first move towards a man, so as not to look stupid or pathetic. It is better to refrain from taking the initiative if:
- the quarrel was entirely provoked by the man;
- during the conflict he said that he wanted to break up with you;
- he left you for another woman;
- the reason for the quarrel was a serious misconduct by the man (cheating, alcoholism, embezzlement, etc.);
- your relationship with this person brings you much more suffering than positive.
In short, if you think that reconciliation is possible in principle, and your initiative will be appropriate, go for it. In the end, it doesn't matter who makes peace first - what matters is the result.
How to achieve reconciliation
Below are some ways to make peace with your beloved man:
- Send him a phone message: "I was wrong. Please forgive me." Of course, this method will only work if you are really guilty of something.
- Start calling your loved one, then hang up. When he calls back, noticing your call, tell him that you accidentally dialed his number, and then casually steer the conversation towards reconciliation.
- Just call the man and say that you would like to meet and talk. If he, like you, dreams of getting everything back, he will definitely agree to meet. And then, when you meet, you can turn the conversation in the direction you need.
- Write a letter to a man saying that you love him and want to renew the relationship. This method is suitable for a shy and timid woman who finds it easier to express her thoughts in writing than to voice them at a meeting.
Just in case, be prepared for the fact that your beloved may not want to make peace with you. In this case, it is advisable not to repeat attempts at reconciliation - by humiliating yourself in front of your partner, you will not achieve anything good. It is better to part beautifully than to regret your thoughtless actions later.
Earlier we talked about the unpleasant moments that can cause a man to lose his beloved .
