Quarrels happen in every couple.
They can be observed especially often during the initial period of living together.
This period of time is extremely rich in clarifying relationships, since both partners must not only get used to each other, but also understand what habits they will have to put up with for further peaceful existence.
Let's take a detailed look at how to make peace with your beloved man.
Don't be afraid to take the first step towards reconciliation.
The hardest thing in a quarrel is to take the first step towards further reconciliation with your other half. Why is it hard?
The reason is simple: few people are ready to admit either their mistakes (if they are the source of the conflict that arose) or “push aside” the resentment they received during the quarrel.
Psychologists advise: never drag out the conflict that has arisen! The goal is to sort things out immediately after the quarrel, giving yourself and your man some time to cool down.
Admit your share of the blame for the conflict
In ancient times, wise people said: "In a conflict between lovers, both sides are to blame. There are no winners or losers in such a situation."
Take this as a basis when you feel the urge to blame the whole world (and your partner in particular) for most of the problems in your life. Don't put the blame solely on your partner.
Find the moral strength to analyze your personal actions and thoughts that could have led to this situation, and admit to yourself and your partner your own share of the blame for this quarrel.
This way you will prove to your interlocutor that you are able to admit your own mistakes. And also that you do not “shift” all the responsibility onto the man (you are ready to resolve this crisis situation).
Explain the reason for your grievances
When talking to a man, it is important to clearly and calmly point out how exactly he offended you.
For example, these are reproaches, caustic remarks or comparisons with someone you know. Such standard actions as saying “red flags” will help you and your partner understand each other better, so that next time in a conversation you will not make similar mistakes and not offend the interlocutor.
Another reason is an open warning about what exactly offends you. It is important to make sure that the man understands this. If it does not work, then you can draw conclusions about the safety of such a relationship.
Don't manipulate someone you love
The conversation after a conflict should be aimed at resolving the situation that has arisen. If you want to save the relationship, you should make every effort to find a compromise that would satisfy both parties.
It is worth immediately "removing" manipulation methods from the arsenal: from gaslighting to the "victim mask". This also applies to the ultimatum method. This will not solve the problem, but only worsen it (it may even lead to a break in relations).
Listen and hear your man
This is the most important part of a truce! After all, when solving a crisis issue, you need to not only speak out yourself, but also listen to your opponent. The importance of such an action is that people react differently to the same event.
For example, you might be offended by the fact that your loved one compared you to an actress. But your partner might think that he paid a compliment to the woman he loves. Even if it seems funny, such situations sometimes cause serious conflicts in a couple.
Keep your emotions in check
A key element of reconciliation is keeping emotions in check throughout the conversation until a resolution to the conflict is reached.
This is important because women are extremely emotional creatures, and in a fit of “feelings” they can say or do many things that are undesirable when communicating with a loved one.
