There are many jokes about the relationship between mother-in-law and son-in-law, many of which are based on real events.
Why not try and make communication with your mother-in-law an exception to the established stereotypes?
The main thing is to remember that relationships with relatives will be more ideal the further you are from each other.
Respect for elders
Try to treat your mother-in-law with respect, at least for the fact that she gave life to your wife.
This is not just about respect for an older person, but also for the person who gave birth to, raised and educated your future wife.
Your mother-in-law, like her mother, has already earned your respect, and therefore, no matter how bad she may seem to you, and no matter how much you want to challenge her opinion, try to show maximum respect.
It's good to have your own views on life, but sometimes it's better to restrain yourself.
Agree with everything, but in your soul no one forbids you to keep your opinion, because this will not make you poorer!
What to call mother-in-law
Here, of course, various funny and not so funny nicknames will follow in response, but we are talking about that very warm word “mom”.
It is very difficult to say this to a complete stranger, because mom is something close and dear.
To avoid future conflicts, it is important to discuss this issue with your mother-in-law at the beginning of your family life.
Perhaps your mother-in-law will feel more comfortable if you call her by her first name and patronymic.
Down with criticism!
Do not criticize your mother-in-law in front of your wife, or your wife in a conversation with your mother-in-law. Criticism can destroy any relationship, let alone a mother-in-law with her son-in-law. At the same time, it is forbidden to criticize not only the mother-in-law in front of the wife, but also the wife in front of the mother-in-law.
There are cases when such criticism is perceived as a joke and receives support from the interlocutor, but all this is rare.
It is best to express criticism in a personal conversation, but even here it is important to think several times and evaluate the situation, rather than expressing a hasty “fie” and getting a scandal as a result.
Show interest
All people love care and attention. Your mother-in-law, although a stranger to you, has recently become a relative, and therefore it is worth taking extra care of her health, for example.
No one is forcing you to call this woman every day on the phone and inquire about her affairs, but a few minutes of attention will allow you to create a solid foundation for future communication with your mother-in-law.
Answer as it is
If your mother-in-law is interested in your affairs, you should not embellish or be modest when answering.
She needs to know that you are a worthy man and that her daughter is lucky, even if you are going through hard times at the moment.
Advice to mother-in-law
The mother-in-law must understand that now another person has appeared in her daughter's life - her husband. The relationship between him and his mother-in-law depends not only on the son-in-law.
It is important that the wife’s mother also takes direct part in conflict prevention.
First of all, it is important for the mother-in-law to understand that now her daughter is no longer a child who requires parental intervention, but a wife and mother.
She has her own family, the problems and joys of which will be shared only between her and her husband.
The main reason for the mother-in-law's dislike for her son-in-law is the opinion that her daughter's husband is not worthy of her.
On the one hand, concern and excitement are understandable, but on the other hand, this is the life of the daughter, which she chose for herself.
She married a man who seems ideal to her, which means she must be responsible for her actions and correct the mistakes of her family life, if any. No one is immune from them.
