Any girl is happy when she meets a nice and positive guy in all respects, who is ready for a serious relationship.
A picture of cloudless family happiness immediately appears before the mind's eye.
But euphoria is often replaced by disappointment when a woman discovers that her lover is too dependent on his mother.
Men who were unable to gain psychological independence in adulthood are commonly called mama's boys.
Psychological roots of the problem
A man can become a mama's boy for various reasons. Here are the most common ones:
1. A domineering and authoritarian mother. Some mothers, who have too strong a character and a strong will, psychologically suppress their sons and literally do not allow them to take a step without their permission.
As a result, the man grows up too compliant, weak-willed, and determined to unquestioningly obey his mother.
2. Strong emotional connection with mother. If a guy was raised in a single-parent family, without a father, and on top of that had no brothers or sisters, then it is hardly surprising that he considers his mother to be the closest and dearest person.
At the same time, he may be strong and independent, but his mother will always be the number one person in his life.
3. Individual psychological characteristics. Some guys are born with a docile and gentle character. Such men are called "led".
In childhood and adolescence, they do not like to make independent decisions, but wait for their mother to decide and do everything for them. In adulthood, the same tendency continues.
Regardless of the reason why a man turns out to be a mama's boy, his woman must come to terms with the fact that his mother will always come first for him.
Any attempt to tear him away from his mother's skirt will not only be doomed to failure, but may also cause a serious conflict.
Moreover, he will, of course, be in conflict with the woman who dared to encroach on the most sacred thing.
Is there a chance for family happiness?
Family psychologists claim that, despite excessive attachment to the mother, a mama's boy may well turn out to be a good husband and caring father.
Therefore, if you come across such a man, do not rush to put an end to your relationship with him. Perhaps you will be able to create a strong and happy family with him. Here are some tips on how to do this:
1. First of all, try to be friends with his mother. It is possible that she will love you as her own daughter. In this case, your chances of a successful union with her son will increase significantly.
2. Try not to be jealous of his mother. After all, it is better for him to spend time communicating with his mother than to hang out with friends in bars or have a mistress.
3. Never try to set such a man against his mother. Firstly, you will not be able to drive a wedge between them anyway. Secondly, if you make an enemy of her, she will definitely figure out how to separate you from your son.
The only time you shouldn't even try to have a relationship with a mama's boy is if his mother doesn't accept you in the first place.
The thing is that some mothers are so attached to their sons that they are insanely jealous of their daughters-in-law. With such a mother-in-law, you will be bad, even if you please her and your husband in everything.
Earlier we talked about how to feel like a happy person .
