Sooner or later everything ends.
At first you are in love, everything is wonderful and beautiful.
But over time, you get used to him, his shortcomings start to irritate you, you discover completely different preferences and tastes. The feelings disappear, and you understand that he is not the hero of your novel.
How to break up painlessly
Do not doubt if the verdict is final
The decision to break up is hard - you are tormented by guilt and pity for your loved one. If the decision is thoughtful and final, then go all the way, not allowing the guy to manipulate you.
Each person builds their life based primarily on their own interests and desires. Therefore, do not doubt your decision, otherwise the separation will be long and exhausting.
Time and place are important
You shouldn't put off a difficult conversation. The offer to live separately from each other gives false hope for the resumption of relations. But if the guy is going through a difficult period in his life, troubles - it is worth waiting for the situation to be resolved.
For the decisive conversation, it is better to choose a calm, neutral place - a cafe, a bench in the park. The place should not remind you of happy moments, and the presence of people will help control emotions, "keep face".
You will also have to ensure your own safety - during a difficult conversation, do not be alone with a person who may become aggressive or hit.
Girlfriends are not helpers
You shouldn't discuss it with your girlfriends in advance or delegate the decision. The guy should find out personally and be the first to hear the unpleasant news. Don't savor this breakup with your mutual friends - your couple is gone, but your friends are still there.
It is important to prepare for a difficult conversation:
- when you meet, immediately gather your courage and say it, looking your partner in the eyes;
- speak in a calm tone, without stress or hysteria;
- no need to remember mistakes and shortcomings, to convince you that you are right;
- calmly announce that the relationship has run its course and that you have no future as a couple;
- to thank for the good things that you had;
- don't feel sorry for the guy, don't hug him goodbye;
- if a young man starts shouting, insulting and threatening, you need to get up and leave. There is no point in continuing the conversation, and you are not obliged to tolerate humiliation.
Time heals
Often couples try to remain friends. But repeated meetings do not allow the wounds to heal, sometimes giving false hope that everything will return. It is better to stop communicating, at least for a while.
After a breakup, the initiator is often tormented by a sense of guilt. You need to forgive yourself and your ex-lover, and move on with your life. Work, sports, hobbies will help fill the void. And, of course, new relationships.
