Fast and passionate relationships often leave a trace of affection in the souls of people who have separated.
Women suffer from the consequences of their passion much more often than men. They cannot forget a man for a long time.
They always feel like if they had done something differently, the man would have stayed by their side.
You can throw off the shackles of such attachment if you start to act, and not give in to despondency.
Where does unhealthy dependency in relationships come from?
Many people confuse the concepts of "love" and "dependence", believing that they are the same thing. In fact, love has attachment and closeness, but only to a certain extent.
Even in love, partners do not dissolve in each other, but coexist side by side. They help and support each other, but do not interfere with personal development.
In dependent relationships, people are so intertwined with their thoughts, needs, desires, goals that no one can untangle this tangle. In a sick dependency, each partner tries to assert themselves at the expense of the other, taking away their resources.
Unhealthy attachment in women begins when a girl initially enters into a relationship where a man decides everything for her, does not let her say a word and always puts only his own goals as a priority.
In such relationships, the woman serves as an object of manipulation for the man, and not as a separate person. The man uses her time, body, and does not care how she feels about it.
Such relationships may look quite normal from the outside, but from the inside they are unbalanced and when the man leaves, the girl feels deceived and abandoned.
It is difficult for her to realize that the strong man who solved her problems has left and now she needs to learn to make decisions and take responsibility for herself.
10 Rules to Help You Get Rid of Attachment
1. If you are in a terrible mood, then sport will help - the release of endorphins from exercise will improve your mood and life will seem more fun.
2. You need to load yourself with work or other important things so that there is no time left to think about your ex-partner.
3. You can take some courses in make-up, handicrafts, dancing, foreign languages to bring new impressions into your usual life.
4. To increase tone and gain vitality, yoga and meditation for 20 minutes daily will help.
5. You can meet with friends and family more often so that there are no bad thoughts, feelings of loss, or feelings of uselessness.
6. Outline your responsibilities and understand that an adult should have his own responsibility. It's good when a partner solves all the issues, but when he leaves, you need to learn to do it yourself in order to stand on your feet more firmly.
7. Some women need to take care of someone, so a great option is to channel your energy into volunteer work.
8. You can get a dog, a kitten or a rare ficus - then there will be no sad thoughts, and caring for the pet will dispel boredom.
9. Revise your views on life. Find new goals and values.
10. When the pain of loss eases a little, it's time for new, happy acquaintances. Just remember that in love people are free and have the right to do anything.
Earlier we talked about how to understand that a man is indifferent to a woman .
