It is not uncommon to notice a trend when couples have been dating for several years, but the wedding is not moving forward or is constantly postponed until better times.
What are men's fears based on?
High responsibility
Not every person is able to take responsibility for their own actions and life in general, and marriage implies caring not only for oneself, but also for one’s spouse, and in the future – for children.
In addition, this is a restriction of their freedom, because now there will no longer be the opportunity to just go somewhere, relax with friends and have fun.
But we should not forget that not all women limit a man's freedom to total supervision, so this should not be considered a death sentence.
A visual example from friends
When you manage to get together in a group, there will always be those who want to discuss all the “joys” of family life, complain about problems in marriage, and express dissatisfaction with their wife.
Other men, listening to all this, begin to form their own attitudes in their heads, which completely discourages them from wanting to get married.
Childhood trauma
If the parents' personal life consisted of scandals, shouting and constant conflicts, then all this was clearly imprinted in the child's memory.
Later, at a more mature age, a man will limit himself from such situations in order to make his life in marriage different, or, on the contrary, will not be able to take responsibility due to childhood fears.
Finance
It’s one thing when both people in a marriage earn money, and quite another when the wife sits at home and raises the child, and the main income falls on the shoulders of the man.
But living, counting every penny, is far from the happy way of life that any person strives for.
Second marriage
Sometimes a man may hesitate to take a serious step because he has already been in a relationship with another woman and does not want to go back to that after a painful divorce.
Especially if the breakup was initiated by the spouse. This can also be influenced by the presence of children from a previous marriage.
It can be concluded that men really have many well-founded fears that can push them away from a new stage in their lives. Although statistics show an increase in marriages today, the percentage of marriage breakdowns is no less.
Earlier we wrote about why you shouldn’t date a married man.
