Envy is an emotional state that arises when comparing yourself with other people on various parameters - beauty, education, wealth, success in personal life, etc.
Often this is due to low self-esteem, dissatisfaction with one’s life and opportunities.
One of the reasons for the emergence of envy can be a comparison with someone who has everything, and oneself, who seems to have nothing.
In addition, a person experiencing envy may feel a strong need to convince himself and others of his petal uniqueness and the height of his feelings, which can provoke secrecy, isolation and neuroses.
Another reason is the limitations of one’s perception, because a person sees the situation only with his own eyes, which can lead to a distortion of reality.
Often one side of a person unrealistically overestimates their achievements, while the other side underestimates theirs, and that is when misunderstanding and envy arise.
Symptoms of Envy in Relationships
A person experiencing envy can express itself in various forms of behavior.
This could be comparing yourself to others on any parameter, a direct or indirect search for false fortune tellers, discussing the personal lives of others and searching for information about them, developing an established theme in conversations with friends and colleagues, or a satirical commentary on someone else’s success.
In addition, a person may feel anxiety, fear, or, conversely, renewed or decreased interest in those with whom he was previously friends.
There also appears a desire to separate from others, to get rid of those who seem to him not successful, beautiful or rich enough.
It is worth remembering that each person is individual and can express envy in their own way - suicidal, aggressive, depressed, irritable or indifferent, and it is important not to think of envy as a disease, but as an emotion that can be learned to manage.
How to Solve the Problem of Envy in a Relationship
Although envy is a natural feeling, it can bring a lot of negative emotions and affect relationships with loved ones and friends.
To overcome envy, we need to start with a better understanding of ourselves and what we want in life, as well as what actions and extra efforts are possible to achieve our goals.
To overcome envy, you need to learn to be happy for others. This can be done, for example, by congratulating them on their successes and cheaply with friends about an important event for them, as well as finding something good in your own life for a calmer and more favorable mood.
Another way is to expand your social circle. Often envy arises from incompleteness, for example, when there is something that we would like to do, but we cannot, so it drags on and then envy appears for other people who have already done something in their lives.
In addition, you need to pay attention to your communication skills, as well as your emotional and physical health (sports, yoga, etc. are recommended here).
How to help someone who is jealous
To help someone who is feeling jealous, it is important to be empathetic and supportive.
Listen to him and try to show that you understand his condition, and then perhaps you can help him with advice.
It can also be helpful to talk about your own experiences or the experiences of others and learn to see other aspects of life around you, not just those that cause envy.
If possible, I advise you to seek advice from a professional psychologist who will help you restore self-confidence and improve your self-esteem.
It is important to remember that a person who is envious is very vulnerable and sick, so treat him with due respect and care.
Envy is not the most pleasant emotion to experience in life. But we can always learn to manage it using various methods and tips that were listed above.
In any case, it is important to remember that a person who experiences envy should not feel alone, deprived of support and understanding.
It is especially important to learn to appreciate the diversity and uniqueness of each person and to enjoy the moment of life.
Previously, we talked about how to deal with accumulated negativity and what effective methods exist for this.
