If a husband constantly yells at his wife, this most likely indicates discord in the family.
The arguments take place in raised tones, and both spouses think that their other half will listen to the shouting.
But in reality it happens quite the opposite, and the scandal flares up more and more. Mutual insults and damage to objects come into play.
The popular belief that only women are hot-tempered and loud is not always true.
It often happens that it is the man who reacts aggressively to everyday trifles or his wife's comments. Each time, such behavior offends more and more. And it is unclear what drives the husband, and did the wife really provoke such changes in him?
Maybe it's okay
No marriage can do without conflicts. Conflicts are normal. No matter how strange it may sound, there is nothing terrible about them.
This is just a way to hear each other's grievances and find a solution to the issue that has arisen. But when conflicts in the family begin to go beyond the limits, when spouses forget that they are a family, and a quarrel becomes a reason to release aggression - this ceases to be the norm.
If a husband constantly yells and insults, the question arises - why
It is a common belief that women are more hot-tempered. They are impulsive and sensitive by nature. This is normal. But if a woman becomes callous, this indicates a mental breakdown.
Also with men, who by nature are calmer, more reasonable and logical. And if a man suddenly starts quarreling with or without reason, this also indicates pathology. In order to understand this, it is necessary to find out the reasons.
Reasons for screaming
For some couples, conflicts become the cause of divorce, and for others, they become a way to resolve differences.
They say that a wise woman will find a solution to the problem that has arisen, but what to do if the husband does not want to listen and immediately resorts to shouting and insults? What to do when it is impossible and undesirable to refrain from a response?
Psychology of men
Men are initially more reserved than women. Unlike ladies, they keep everything to themselves and do not show dissatisfaction with every little thing.
The tension inside grows, and one day they "explode", followed by a sharp increase in tone and rude insults. And his beloved wife becomes unwanted, whom he would rather never have known.
Spouse's parents
Take a closer look at your loved one's relatives. How do they behave, how do they treat each other? If there is a tense atmosphere in your parents' family, communication is rude and disrespectful, then it is not surprising that your husband yells at any reason.
Children always copy the behavior of their parents, and much of what is laid down by the father and mother remains with a person for life. Perhaps your husband is sure that he behaves correctly and does not know about the existence of other forms of relationships.
Who's the boss in the house?
A man may lack a sense of importance. He wants to feel important in the family, to know that he is the boss.
In order to strengthen his position, he chooses the easiest way - to win the argument.
Hence the nagging, in which the wife's opinion is not even taken into account; humiliation. But having won the conflict, the man is convinced that he is the boss, shows this to his wife and children, and perhaps even to those around him.
Problems at work
It often happens that a husband yells at his wife after an unsuccessful working day. It is not tactful for a man to voice his complaints to his boss, and he takes out his anger on his wife when he comes home.
It happens that spouses listen to each other in a dispute, explain their opinions and come to a compromise. But if the husband constantly yells and insults, it is impossible to simply accept this and live with him.
No matter how many possible reasons there are, the true motive for such behavior is known only to him. But if you always resolve the conflict with arguments and shouting, especially if you try to shout down your husband, the foundation of the relationship will be shaken, people will forget about their love for each other and over time will turn into enemies living under the same roof.
To prevent this from happening, there are ways to resolve conflicts
If your husband yells at you for any reason, think about how long it’s been since you’ve been interested in his affairs.
Perhaps something is bothering him, and the screaming is just an indicator that something is wrong in his inner world, and he cannot cope? It is necessary to find out what is bothering the husband, to establish the cause of the conflict. Maybe it will turn out to be completely insignificant, and it will not be difficult to eliminate it?
Sometimes solving a problem, if done calmly and wisely, is not difficult at all. The main rule is not to react to the shouting, and not to start raising your tone in response. Try to just let your husband speak out - it will be easier for him. And maybe even more - some things will come to light that he does not like. You just have to listen.
If your husband just came home from work, there is no need to tell him about all the household chores, your son’s bad grade, or the washing machine’s breakdown.
A person who has worked all day should first be fed, then asked how he is doing at work, discuss his problems with him, raise his spirits, and only then tell him about some everyday trifles.
They will be perceived much easier now. Suggest to your loved one to go to the gym together to let out emotions in a safe environment.
If your husband is constantly yelling, don't let him start a fight. Stop it from the very beginning by hugging your loved one and telling him how much you love him. Often a man gets offended when he thinks that his wife has stopped appreciating him and paying attention to his achievements. By yelling, he is only trying to attract attention.
There are more serious situations, and if the husband constantly yells and is unhappy with everything, the advice of a psychologist is necessary.
Tell us about your feelings
Sometimes a husband doesn't even realize that he has hurt his wife's feelings. Try to convey this understanding to him: tell him what you feel. For example, today you both had a difficult day at work.
Having come home, the wife is tired, has cooked and also wants to rest like her husband, but she can't because of the unwashed mountain of dishes. And so that he would help her at least with washing the dishes, she can turn to her husband with the phrase:
Darling, you know, I am also very tired today at work and would also like to rest a little, but I can’t do it because of the dirty dishes in the sink…. Note – quietly, without reproaches and insults.
Direct request
If the hint is too subtle for your husband, then you should directly ask him for a favor. But do not raise your tone or make your voice rougher. You can limit yourself to the phrase: Maybe you will help me after all, dear, maybe after a direct request your husband will get up from the couch and help you in the kitchen.
Make peace
If your husband continues to sit on the couch, thinking that he is being bothered with trivial things, you obviously begin to get angry because he cannot do such a trivial thing for his wife. Conflict is brewing.
Offer an alternative to arguing - peace: I feel like we could have a fight. But I don't want that, do you? This gives the man the opportunity to think about whether he needs a fight today.
If your husband doesn't want to quarrel, but still doesn't want to wash the dishes, omit this phrase: Darling! Our family is on the way to divorce. Where can I look for such a wonderful man? Such a compliment will help relieve tension, and a husband who loves his wife will still come to the kitchen. Without any shouting or insults!
It is important to understand that conflict does not come from nothing. The lower your man's self-esteem, the worse the relationship in the family. Unsatisfied ambitions are the result of communication, primarily with loved ones.
If you do not support such a man and do not help him, then he will begin to assert himself at the expense of the people who surround him. This is the main reason why the husband constantly yells.
The Cardinal Method
If the quarrels go beyond the bounds of decency, and the husband constantly yells and is dissatisfied with everything, the advice of a psychologist is necessary to make the woman think about why she is in this relationship with this person.
If no negotiations or peace proposals help, the man crosses the line and violence begins, it is worth seriously thinking about what is good about this marriage.
Think about why you are still with your husband? Do you really love this person and are you willing to be patient, is it worth it?
Patience and faith are the basis of re-education, without this it is impossible to improve relations. If you are ready for this, let your husband understand that you are his support, and you will always support all his undertakings. Let him know that his wife loves him and is ready to accept him as he is.
Earlier we wrote about what you shouldn’t do in a relationship.
