If a man constantly manipulates his beloved, then you can hardly dream of a healthy relationship with him.
Unfortunately, women often turn a blind eye to the speeches of their loved one.
They think that a man can tell them anything and it won't affect their relationship with him, but that's not true.
In fact, you should listen to all the words of your beloved, because they directly show the man’s attitude towards his other half.
So, after hearing what phrases, should you think about leaving your lover?
"A woman should be..."
It doesn’t matter what kind of woman a man dreams of: passionate, quiet, modest or resilient, or whether he wants her to be a wonderful housewife.
If a man expresses his wishes about what kind of woman should be next to him, then, most likely, he treats her as a laundress, a cook or a lover, but not as a partner whom he values.
A man does not see a woman as a person. If a man will always talk about what a woman should focus on in order to become convenient for her loved one, then there is no point in thinking about any love in the relationship, because it will immediately evaporate.
Such a man wants a woman to serve him, and not to be his other half.
Most likely, a man does not see a woman as she is if he constantly tries to remake her and make her “perfect.”
Even if a man says, “Don’t swear, it’s ugly,” or “Eat more slowly,” this also indicates that he is trying to make his partner comfortable for himself.
"You always think, stop winding yourself up"
If a man says this phrase, then we can confidently say that he is a gaslighter.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which the victim constantly doubts themselves and their ability to perceive reality adequately. They are constantly teased, intimidated, and criticized.
How does gaslighting develop in a relationship? It's very simple: a woman sees that a man has suddenly cooled towards her, and his good mood has immediately evaporated, which is why she begins to worry. And this is an absolutely normal reaction to such a change.
But when the woman tries to figure out what went wrong, the man convinces her that everything is just fine.
Of course, a woman in such a situation begins to think that she did something wrong, she begins to blame and criticize herself. But this is just manipulation that the gaslighter uses to suppress the will of his victim. In no case should you fall for this trick.
"Let's try to renew our relationship, I have changed"
Breakups can be a serious shock for a person. All colors leave his life, he seems to plunge into emptiness.
The woman begins to fear that she will never again experience love in her life and will remain alone. And if the woman was also in a codependent relationship, then after its breakup her self-esteem may suffer.
That is why, if a woman is lured to him by her ex-partner, she will definitely fall for it and believe that the relationship with him can be renewed and made truly happy.
However, it is important for a woman to remember why the relationship ended, and she should ask herself whether she was truly satisfied with the communication with the once close person or whether she is simply living in memories.
Earlier we talked about how to distinguish true love from passion.
