Underestimating oneself is a fairly common phenomenon among modern people.
Nowadays it is common to examine in detail such questions as: “Why didn’t you do this?”, “What was the reason for such an action?”, “Why didn’t you take advantage of the chance given to you?” and so on.
But more often than not, we simply don't notice that we underestimate ourselves. How does this manifest itself? Let's look into this in detail.
You reject compliments
“Yes, I don’t have any abilities/talents”, “You’re exaggerating”, “I was just lucky”, “It’s just a coincidence!” – and other similar phrases eloquently indicate that a person significantly underestimates himself.
Therefore, he tries to emphasize every time in conversation that everything he has achieved or received is pure chance and a lucky coincidence.
Such excessive modesty can lead to very big problems, since it will seem to the people around that such modest behavior is simply a skillful play for the audience.
This can lead to conflicts and quarrels with colleagues, who at every opportunity will “point out the successful play” of the unfortunate person.
Lack of personal opinion
“My mother told me that…”, “The teacher thinks that…”, “My brother said that…” - the frequent use of these and other similar phrases in conversation indicates a lack of one’s own opinion on any issue and a lack of faith in one’s own abilities.
These phrases also serve as a kind of "indicator" that for such a person, someone else's opinion is in the leading positions. Because of this, authority is lost both as a person and as a specialist.
This habit can play a cruel joke. For example, you can be told one piece of information, and the management - completely different. And when you try to prove that you were given the information by such and such a person, they simply will not believe you.
Result: significant deterioration of relationships within the team. It may even lead to dismissal for slander.
Thoughts about oneself are relegated to last place
A person who underestimates himself will sacredly believe that he is not worth any signs of attention, gifts or nice little surprises. The value of the good of other people (even strangers) is above all!
Yes, people around him will respect such a person, because they consider him kind, sympathetic and not indifferent to the grief of others. But the person himself devalues himself as a person.
After all, if he does not value himself even for such good deeds, then how will strangers and strangers be able to respect his work, his point of view, his aspirations? Who of them will help him when help is needed?
My head is constantly filled with thoughts about the impression I make on others.
The most harmful attitude that spoils your entire future life is thinking about “what others think about my every action/clothes/thought, etc.”
Such behavior is dangerous first of all for the person himself, who does not realize his value, since the people around him feel his insecurity very well, and this gives rise to evil jokes and bullying, turning into psychological bullying.
Exaggeration of emerging problems
A small flaw, dirty clothes, a mistake made - all this is a reason to start scolding yourself with harsh words. Praise and compliments are not perceived properly.
This is what people who do not realize their value usually do. They see only their mistakes, errors and a lot of shortcomings. And such people can engage in this session of "self-digging" for quite a long time.
It is worth saying that such constant reproaches are not constructive and will not help in solving the problem that has arisen. Therefore, it is worth putting aside self-digging and doing more productive things.
