It is believed that it is much more difficult for a man to win a woman's favor.
Often a man has to compete with a certain circle of admirers of a girl. However, there are situations of a different kind.
In such cases, the girl herself is drawn to a representative of the stronger sex. But in response to care, attention and displays of affection, she receives neglect or indifference.
What are the 14 phrases a guy says when he's not interested in a girl?
1. "You are like a sister to me" - on the one hand, it is flattering to be a close person for him. However, a woman would like a different status.
Quite often, if a guy perceives a girl as a little sister and not as a potential partner, the chances of moving on to a romantic relationship are slim.
2. “Let’s wait with this, it’s not time yet” – it would seem that the guy needs time to be sure of his own feelings.
But each situation is so simple. The situation resembles a conversation with a job applicant. If the employer says "we will call you back" - there is a 99% probability that the person will not be hired.
3. "Let's stay friends" - here the situation is clear. The man is interested in the girl, but alas, he would not like to create a couple.
It is possible that she is a good person, a conversationalist, a loyal friend. But in his case, communication will be limited to this.
4. “Let’s meet, but not today” – as a rule, the duration of this “not today” can be from several days to several months.
In this case, the man is not interested even in friendly communication with the girl. The main and offensive thing is that girls do not immediately understand this and can even indulge themselves in vain hopes for a long time.
5. "Sorry, busy. Talk later" - usually when guys don't feel like seeing anyone, they cite career busyness.
This is a positive pretext. After all, there is an established opinion in society that a man should work hard and earn a decent income.
In fact, if a guy says that he doesn’t want to see you or call you because he’s busy at work, then he might not sit in the office all day long, but calmly eat pizza at home while playing a computer game.
6. "Sorry, but I have a girlfriend" - this can be both true and false. After all, if a man doesn't have a ring on his finger, it's extremely difficult to catch him lying about the relationship.
Such a man may answer that he deliberately does not show his chosen one. Or he will ask a friend to "play along" with him, portraying the role of his beloved.
7. “You’re a good girl, but...” – then follows the explanation of why a man cannot reciprocate the sympathy.
The options can be different, starting from "alas, there was no spark between us" to the outright "you are not my type". This is a categorical option, after which it is stupid to expect reciprocity.
8. "You and I are different people" is also a top excuse for men. It is extremely difficult to refute this opinion.
9. “Let’s communicate, but without any relationship” is another version of the friend zone, from which the girl will no longer be able to get out.
10. "I like you too, but I'm still recovering from a divorce or previous relationship" - a rejection option with "perspective". The outcome is 50/50.
If the guy didn't lie about sympathy, then you should be there. Perhaps care, affection and support will bring people closer. But it is also possible to move into the eternal friend zone.
11. “I don’t want a relationship with anyone” – a guy may really value freedom, be afraid of responsibility, and so on.
Or he might say something like that because he doesn't like this particular girl. But if another girl had told him she liked him, he might have gone on a date.
12. "You're too young" - this option is used by men whose age difference with the girl is 10 years or more. But if a couple in which the woman is 20 and the man is 60 looks strange - then a couple in which the man is 30 and the woman is 20 may still have a right to exist.
However, sometimes guys resort to such an excuse, citing the fact that it will be difficult for representatives of different generations to understand each other.
13. "Sorry, I need time to think" - in fact, after this answer, a man can completely forget about the topic of conversation. Especially if he is not interested in it. He needed to "deflect the attack" - and he did it.
14. "Let's not rush things" - a variation of the previous phrase. The guy does not want to offend the girl by directly saying that he does not like her, he deliberately "delays time" so that the girl either understands that nothing will work out with him, or simply forgets and switches to someone else.
It's worth taking a philosophical approach
It is impossible to please every person. Therefore, a man's refusal should be taken "philosophically". After all, there are still many attractive young men in the world.
Besides, it is much easier for a girl to gain reciprocity from men than for a guy. The latter is still obliged to prove to the fairer sex that he is the best of suitors.
Previously, we talked about why trust issues arise in relationships.
