Relationships between spouses sometimes go through difficult times.
Conflicts and disagreements are inevitable. But there is a difference between normal family problems and destructive behavior that ruins relationships.
Today we'll look at 7 common behavior patterns that signal serious problems in a relationship.
The goal is not to blame anyone, but to help spouses recognize and correct destructive patterns before irreparable damage is done.
Control and manipulation
The partner tries to completely control the other: monitors calls and messages, prohibits communication with friends and relatives. Manipulates feelings of guilt, threatens to break up the relationship.
This behavior is unacceptable. Healthy relationships are based on trust, respect for personal boundaries and the interests of each.
Jealousy and suspicion
Jealousy in moderation can be a manifestation of love. But pathological jealousy, when a partner is constantly jealous without reason, interrogates and forbids communication with friends of the opposite sex, is destructive.
It may be worthwhile to understand the true reasons for your fears of losing your partner in order to get rid of these obsessive suspicions.
Insults and humiliation
Criticism and insults, derogatory comments about appearance, intelligence, abilities are an unacceptable form of emotional abuse.
This attitude traumatizes the psyche, undermines self-confidence and destroys the self-esteem of the partner.
Double standards
When something is allowed for one partner and forbidden for the other. For example, a husband is constantly jealous of his wife's colleagues, but he himself regularly flirts with female employees.
This hypocrisy breeds resentment and misunderstanding. Partners must adhere to the same rules in their relationships.
Manipulation of feelings
One of the manipulators' techniques is to play on the partner's feelings, forcing them to react in a certain way. Threats of separation, hysteria, accusations, and blackmail may be used.
Healthy relationships are impossible if one tries to completely subjugate the will of the other.
Financial control
A behavior pattern in which one has complete control over the family budget, forbidding spending money without permission. Financial control is one of the tools for manipulating a partner.
Sign of an unhealthy relationship: Finances should be discussed and decided jointly.
Ignoring the partner's opinion
If one makes important joint decisions alone, ignoring the opinion, interests and needs of the other, this is an alarming signal.
In a healthy relationship, partners listen to each other and make joint decisions.
Conclusion
If you have noticed at least a few of the described patterns of behavior in yourself or your partner, you should be wary.
Perhaps the relationship is going through a period of crisis. But many patterns are dysfunctional in themselves. They prevent the building of a strong union and over time lead to the destruction of the relationship.
What to do? Recognize the problem, talk frankly and start working on the relationship. And in case of serious abuse, contact a family psychologist or break up if the partner does not want to change.
The main thing is not to close your eyes to destructive behavior patterns. And to tell yourself in time: “Stop! This can’t go on like this.” The future of the relationship depends on this step.
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