Sometimes it happens that the relationship between a man and a woman deteriorates, or even breaks down completely.
If this happens, each partner tries to find an excuse for themselves, blaming the other for everything that happened.
You shouldn't do this, because most often both are to blame for the breakup. What problems are the result of your actions?
You only take, but don’t want to give back.
Most people look at relationships through the lens of what they can get out of them. But you need to put in just as much.
Women, for example, want to see men who are caring, attentive, generous, etc. Having received such a partner, they reap the benefits at first and are happy. Then they notice that the gentleman has cooled off, stopped trying. This surprises them.
How it happened. A man with such qualities, at first tries to please his partner. Later, when the feelings cool down a bit, he sees that he gets nothing in return. He gets disappointed. And he is no longer interested in doing anything for his chosen one.
What to do: Give as much as you receive, because relationships are not a one-way street.
Provoking your partner about past relationship problems
You don't want to feel pain anymore, so you behave in a way that you don't get hurt anymore. And this is, most often, an aggressive attitude.
Besides, you are always expecting a "stab in the back". And this also does not add romance.
What to do: stop looking at your partner as if you expect something bad from them. After all, even the most loving person cannot tolerate constant "thorns" in their direction.
You don't need a person, you need a set of qualities
Typically it looks like this:
- find a woman who cooks well;
– find a good father for the children;
- a man who will take care;
- a woman with whom it will be fun.
Of course, it is very good when a person knows what he wants. The problem is that behind all these qualities you do not see the personality itself.
To endure for a long time, and then to speak out with shouting and emotions
At first glance, it may seem that you are doing everything right: tolerating minor nuances of unworthy behavior, smoothing over rough edges, etc., but the truth is that after such violence against yourself, explosions inevitably occur.
What to do: don't tolerate it. Establish communication with your partner. After all, for him everything looks like this: you are silent, which means you are satisfied with everything.
Then for some reason you lose your temper and start shouting. It's better to say everything at once and calmly. This will help avoid many conflicts.
