All love stories begin beautifully and romantically, but they usually end with mutual reproaches and endless showdowns.
How should one behave so that separation from a former lover does not leave a painful and unpleasant feeling in the soul?
1. You need to make a final and irrevocable decision to break up - in this case, long-winded and painful explanations will be unnecessary.
Of course, a partner can provoke another by expressing their complaints and grievances, but one should never give in to provocations.
The couple has already had time to discuss everything, if this did not bring any results, then a final quarrel will not help them in any way.
This is exactly what should be said to the offended partner, and in the future it is worth limiting yourself to a minimum of words, addressing him only in connection with some everyday moment.
2. Breakups happen easier when you realize the futility of your relationship, but if only one of you has come to this conclusion, he will inevitably hurt his former lover.
Therefore, you should not tell someone about your decision without preparing it.
You come to this decision gradually, day after day becoming convinced that you are right, and this gives you the opportunity to convey this idea to your partner in a tactful manner.
This is important not only for the person being dumped – it will make things easier for both partners in the future.
It is worth starting a new life without realizing that somewhere there is still a person who thinks about you every hour, mentally argues with you, tries to convince you to come back.
It is difficult to avoid such a denouement, but it is possible. It is enough to delicately dispel the illusion that your partner has created for himself, showing that you are not at all the person he wants to see.
3. Sometimes a person out of pity gives his ex-lover false hope, saying: “I need to be alone for some time”, “I want to rest, think calmly about our relationship”.
Such words make the partner believe that not all is lost, and as a result, he will cling to this hope and be tormented by doubts.
By doing this, you allow him to be even more cruel to you, so you need to break up once and for all.
4. When you start talking about breaking up, you also don’t need to hypocritically put yourself down by saying, for example, “You’re too good for me.”
It is possible that this is true, but in this case it is not important. It is important to tell the person the real reason for the breakup - parting without explanation or outright lies are insulting.
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