Most relationships end in a complete breakup and the partners moving away.
But problems arise when exes work or study together, go to the same gym, or hang out with the same people.
At first glance, this is an impossible task, and in order not to make things even more painful, one will have to quit, transfer to another educational institution, or stop communicating with mutual friends. This can be avoided with the following tips.
New or favorite thing
You should concentrate more often on the activity that you like and that brings you pleasure.
If you have to work in the same room, devote yourself entirely to your duties.
Studying English or drawing, it doesn't matter, the main thing is focusing on the textbook or easel. This simple technique helps to drive away unnecessary thoughts.
Gossip
There is no point in talking about the relationship and the reasons for its end. No pity, even if the ex-partner is to blame for everything.
Acquaintances, colleagues or mutual friends will be happy to share this information with others.
There will be condemnations behind your back, and all the gossip will unconsciously remind you of the past and "pour salt" on the wounds that have not yet healed. It is better not to discuss any questions about the breakup, and try to change the subject.
No flirting
This applies not only to the ex, but also to mutual friends or colleagues. A painful breakup causes a desire to show a lack of suffering and indifference to the former lover.
Often people make a mistake and want to make their former object of adoration jealous. Everything is used - vacation photos, changing appearance, creating the appearance of a new relationship.
Such actions bind you to the person even more. Instead of putting an end to it, your thoughts are filled only with previous relationships, but the goal is deliverance.
Abstract yourself
Any additional work, social activity and new hobby are the best means to switch thoughts. Such a mode of employment will give its results in work, study or self-development.
Of course, not everyone can work and work on one project all the time, but such a distraction is necessary. Perhaps it will help you recover from a difficult breakup faster.
New company
New acquaintances can be compared to conquering unknown horizons that bring positive emotions, benefits, new opportunities and even drive. These can be people at work, with whom you go down the elevator or go to lunch.
Perhaps you had mutual acquaintances with your ex-partner before, so you should gradually change your social circle. A colleague or classmate can become a friend, with whom it is worth starting communication.
Firstly, it will help you distance yourself, and secondly, it will help you get rid of unnecessary thoughts.
It is important that the company consists of people of the same sex, otherwise there will be a temptation to start a show-off romance.
Distance
Constantly being in the same room with your ex adds even more difficulties. People who follow their exes on social media take longer to recover.
Here the situation is different, but the scheme is similar. As an option, change your work schedule, go on a business trip or vacation. Thanks to this, there will be a chance to take a break, focus and get your life in order.
Earlier we wrote about how to become a happy person .
Expert: Elena Gutyro
