The hardest thing after a breakup is to forget your partner and start moving on.
You can find many practices and methods to forget your partner, but as practice shows, they almost never work.
Therefore, it is much more important to sort out the thoughts that prevent you from forgetting your partner and starting to live anew.
"Maybe I could have done something differently."
One of the most common thoughts that prevents us from forgetting is wondering what we could have done differently.
This thought creates a sense of missed opportunity or regret that can be difficult to overcome.
"He was special"
The memory that a person was unique and important maintains an emotional connection to the past.
The problem is that many simply idealize their partner, completely excluding the rational component. There are no special people, it's all about programming yourself.
"It's impossible to forget those moments"
Particularly vivid or emotionally charged moments often return in thoughts, creating many difficulties.
A person may worry that losing these memories means losing part of their history or identity.
"I must forgive"
Often, a breakup happens because of the partner's mistakes. But is it worth forgiving them? For example, if a man cheated or lied, should a woman forgive him and continue building a relationship? You definitely shouldn't blame yourself for not being able to forgive.
"The future is not what I imagined"
Thinking about what the future could be like with a person from the past can keep hope alive for a return to what was before and make it difficult to let go of the past.
Many people idealize past relationships, completely forgetting that they can have destructive consequences for the present.
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Expert: Elena Gutyro
