There are situations when past relationships poison the present and do not allow you to move forward.
Has anyone thought about why past relationships can't be forgotten? We can recall several main reasons that lead to this.
Nostalgia for the past
Old photos, songs, or places can evoke nostalgia and bring back good times spent with your ex.
Comparison with the present
Constantly comparing your current relationship to what it was before can make it difficult to accept and appreciate the current situation.
Fear of the future
Fear of the unknown and a future without your ex-partner can cause you to return to the past, where everything was familiar and safe.
Feeling of loss
The feeling of loss after a breakup can be so strong that it makes it impossible to move forward. Of course, it is difficult to quickly recover from a breakup, but it is important to be able to highlight the most important things in life.
Idealization of relationships
The tendency to idealize past relationships is a typical mistake. If there is idealization, then building a new relationship will definitely not work.
General social circle
Continuing to communicate with mutual friends is definitely not the best solution. Communicating with the same people will not help you move forward, and the past will gradually “destroy” the present.
Guilt
Feeling guilty about a breakup or mistakes made in the past can make you go back to your ex to make things right.
Uncertainty
Uncertainty about the future and fear of the unknown can lead to a desire to return to the past, where everything was predictable.
Romanticization
The tendency to romanticize the past and forget about his real problems can make your ex-partner seem more attractive than he really is.
Strong attachment
No matter who says it, a strong attachment can remain. You need to accept that your ex-partner is no longer in your life and you need to move on.
Attachment must always be emphasized; ignoring such a feeling is unacceptable.
Earlier we talked about phrases that undermine relationships .
Expert: Arkhipova Julia
