Mama's boy is, unfortunately, a very common concept.
In appearance, he is an ordinary man, not much different from others.
But if you dig deeper, you can see that in reality this is a man who is incapable of making decisions, has no point of view of his own and is completely dependent on his mother.
From early childhood, his mother raised him as if he were her reflection. She would say that it would be so, and the son would agree. She always decided everything for him in childhood and stopped any attempts at independence.
As the child grew older, the habit of obeying his mother in everything, quietly and unquestioningly, appeared.
Ultimately, a personality was formed that was incapable of any responsible actions and was completely dependent on the needs of the mother.
How to recognize that you are dealing with a mama's boy
It is very easy to identify this male representative. Already at the first meeting you will notice with what trepidation and delight your fellow traveler talks about his mother.
His speech often includes phrases such as: “Mom thinks”, “Mom said”, “I need to consult with Mom” and similar sayings.
Immediately after the first date, and perhaps already on it, such a man will suggest that you definitely meet his mother and try to please her, because otherwise you will have to break up.
There is no talk of meeting the girl's parents. Why? What if her mother doesn't approve of her and then there will be no need to meet her parents at all.
Is it possible to create a family with such a man?
If a girl is not afraid of a man's dependence on his mother, then she can try to create her own family with him. But it will not be easy. First, she will have to make every effort to please his mother.
In the future, even if she copes with this task, she will have to put up with her constant presence.
There will always be three people present in the life of a young family: he, she and his mother. If the girl is happy with this, and this is only possible due to blind, crazy love, then she can safely go to the registry office, of course, with the permission of the future husband's mother.
Will the relationship in the family work out?
This is an ambiguous question. Of course, when marrying a mama's boy, every woman secretly hopes to remake him for herself and protect him from the all-encompassing care of his mother. But these hopes are not destined to be justified.
Mom will never allow a young wife to take her son away from her, and he himself will not be able to live without his mother's care. The wife will acquire the status of a housewife and mother of children, whom the mother-in-law will force to give birth to.
Because she only allowed her son to marry in order to ensure the continuation of the family line, so that she would have the opportunity to raise her grandson in the same traditions as her son.
If the young wife is happy with this and is ready to keep quiet and obey her mother-in-law, then such a marriage will be long. But if the girl has her own personal opinion and other views on life, then sooner or later she will see the light and run away from such a family wherever her eyes look.
We previously talked about the signs of a failing marriage
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