Everyone makes mistakes. It's a sad truth, especially in relationships. However, if the mistake is something like an affair, the aftermath can be much more difficult to deal with.
Ultimately, when a partner finds out they are being cheated on, the foundation of the relationship needs to be rebuilt: trust.
Be open
Make it clear to your partner that they do not need to hire a private detective. You need to be clear about all your plans and actions. This will help eliminate any possibility that your partner is developing “seeds” of doubt in their mind.
The most important thing is to discuss the issues that led to the affair. Maybe something serious pushed your partner to take this step, hence the affair. Discussing these issues and finding solutions together - without pointing out who is to blame - can help prevent the affair from happening again.
Listen and be patient
It is understandable that your partner is upset about what happened. Most likely, he wants to vent his frustration. You should not interrupt him and try to correct him while he is angry. This will only make him more upset. It is necessary to take the time to listen and understand all his worries and problems, as this will help him to move forward.
Stay true to your word
The biggest problem is not the physical betrayal. It is actually the loss of trust. The onus is on the person to prove that they are still worthy of that trust. Every little promise that is made must be kept.
So whenever you have to tell your partner that you need to meet them at this place and this time, you need to keep your promise and be there. Every little thing matters. And breaking even the smallest promise can reinforce suspicions.
Showing attention or going back to the past
Yes, once you lose trust, you will need to prove to your partner that you are still worthy of love. You need to accept this process, because it is somewhat similar to the courtship you once had.
You need to think carefully, maybe you can make your partner's little dream come true. For example, you can give them a trip that your partner has always dreamed of, or give them an interesting gift that symbolizes something important. You need to show all your care and love. This can help restore trust.
So, all it takes to restore a relationship is dedication, love, patience and time.
Of course, both must make efforts, cooperate and move forward together towards a happy life. Circumstances so familiar may not be the same as before, but they can be better if both people strive for it.
These are just a few tips that can help you get the love of your life back. However, you should keep in mind that these recommendations are not a “silver bullet.” The process of rebuilding trust is a slow process. It’s all in your hands!
Earlier we wrote about how to quarrel correctly .
Expert: Elena Gutyro
