We want our children to be happy, successful, confident and able to communicate with other people.
But sometimes we make mistakes in parenting that can negatively affect the development and psychology of the child.
Excessive criticism and punishment
Of course, children need rules and boundaries, but if we constantly criticize them for everything they do wrong or punish them too harshly, we risk undermining their self-esteem and causing fear or aggression.
It is better to reward children for what they do well, explain to them the reasons and consequences of their actions and choose adequate forms of punishment that do not humiliate or traumatize the child.
Over-concern and over-insurance
We want to protect our children from all dangers and difficulties, but if we do everything for them, do not give them independence and freedom of choice, we deprive them of the opportunity to develop their abilities, skills and creativity.
It is better to give children the opportunity to make their own decisions, solve problems, make mistakes and learn from them. This will help them become more self-confident and responsible.
Lack of attention and communication
In today's world, we are often busy with work, household chores or our own interests, and do not devote enough time to our children. But they need our love, support and interest in their lives.
If we don't communicate with our children, listen to them, play with them, or do things together, we risk losing contact and trust with them.
It is better to devote at least an hour a day of quality time to our children, when we are fully focused on them and their needs.
Inconsistency and ambiguity
Children need stability and predictability to feel safe and comfortable.
If we constantly change our minds, moods, or parenting rules, or if we say one thing and do another, we create confusion and uncertainty for children.
It is better to be consistent and clear in your demands and expectations of children, and also to be in harmony with other adults who are involved in raising the child.
Comparison and competition
We want our children to be better than others, but if we constantly compare them with other children, be it their peers, brothers, sisters, or even ourselves as children, then there is a risk of causing an inferiority complex or envy in them.
It is better to recognize and appreciate the individuality and uniqueness of each child. Support his strengths and help him develop his weaknesses.
Failure to respect boundaries and rules
Parents who do not set clear boundaries and rules for their children or do not monitor their compliance create conditions for chaos and disorder in the family.
Such children often become irresponsible, undisciplined or rebellious. They do not respect parental authority and do not recognize any restrictions.
Instead of allowing a child to do whatever he wants, it is better to discuss with him the rules of behavior in the family and society, explain to him the reasons and consequences of these rules, and demand that he follow them.
Discrepancy between words and deeds
Parents who say one thing and do another, or who fail to keep their promises, undermine the trust and respect of their children.
Such children often become distrustful, cynical or hypocritical. They do not believe their parents' words and do not follow their example.
Instead of lying or promising the impossible to a child, it is better to be honest and consistent, to match your words and actions, and to fulfill your obligations.
Raising children is not an easy task, and we can all make mistakes. But if we avoid these mistakes, we can create a positive environment for our children in which they can reach their potential and be happy.
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