Coping with a breakup is a difficult task, and one that people often make more difficult.
The following 6 steps should help the broken hearted person better cope with the loss and begin to live life to the fullest.
Do not maintain contact with your ex-partner for at least 90 days
Often a person feels that there are many obligations between them and their ex-spouse/ex-partner, that they should get back together, that they still love each other, or, on the contrary, that their partner behaved cruelly, that they should take revenge. But this is not the best idea.
Usually the conversation goes wrong, one of the parties cannot control their emotions, and nothing is resolved anyway.
It is better to abandon such attempts and establish contact after some time, both people will become more balanced and humble.
Believe in your future
Many people after a breakup tend to idealize their ex-partner and become depressed because of the thought of what has already passed. It is worth forgetting about this.
In fact, every person can find someone who is more suitable for him, who deserves him more, and whom he himself will value more.
Focus on the mistakes, not the positives
When it comes to idealizing ex-partners, the brain often plays an interesting game with people – it forgets about unpleasant experiences and remembers only the beautiful moments. And suddenly people discover that they don’t even know why the relationship ended, because everything was so harmonious.
People tend to downplay the mistakes of their ex-partner. It is important to try not to forget the moments when your partner caused pain, to acknowledge that he/she had shortcomings.
The goal is not to denigrate former partners, far from it, but rather to prohibit their idealization.
Learn to love yourself
It sounds complicated, but in reality, nothing is impossible. Many people tend to define themselves only in conjunction with someone.
After a breakup, you need to learn to cope without him/her. It will be your turn to love yourself, pamper yourself and allow yourself to do what you like. Don't just rely on your surroundings, but take luck into your own hands and not think that someone is missing in your life.
Don't be afraid to show emotions
After a breakup, a person is full of all sorts of feelings - from despair to anger to hysteria. Don't be afraid to let them out.
Do you want to cry? You can cry. Do you want to slam the door? Why not. You can't hold on to negative emotions. It's important to remember that crying is completely normal.
Don't blame yourself for anything
Honestly, sometimes after a breakup it's not sadness that comes, but relief. And then it's hard to feel diminished, even though the people around you expect it.
Of course, sometimes a person feels sad for a long time because he is left alone, but relief that he managed to get out of a relationship that was terrible, and both parties were already suffering in it - this is an absolutely normal reaction.
A person decides how to cope with a breakup. It is important to follow your intuition, it will definitely help you overcome everything.
Previously we wrote about how to regain trust after cheating .
Expert: Arkhipova Julia
