Has your man stopped respecting you? Does his behavior seem outrageous to you? Then there is no point in living with him any longer. Don't believe in miracles, he will not become the same as before.
This difficult situation requires a detailed analysis. It is necessary to put everything on the shelves now, so that you do not repeat old mistakes in a new love union.
Representatives of the stronger sex shamelessly humiliate their chosen ones for many reasons. But we will not list them all. It is better to highlight 6 main ones:
You give him a lot of your love.
There are many women who completely dissolve in their partners. They forget about their own interests and principles, fulfill all the desires of their beloved man.
There is no benefit from fanatical love. It deprives a woman of pride, and, on the contrary, puts a man on a pedestal.
A spoiled representative of the stronger sex can quickly change his attitude towards his other half for the worse.
Perhaps he will start to be rude, demand a lot, and humiliate his defenseless beloved.
Your chosen one constantly shows you his arrogance and impudence? It turns out that you shouldn't expect anything good. Tolerating such a monster is not only harmful, but also dangerous!
You show him your deep affection.
The second point is not excessive love at all. It is about your fear of losing your beloved man.
The beloved knows that you are weak and fearful. He does not miss the opportunity to take advantage of your weaknesses. In the man's opinion, you are worthless on your own. Only with him will you be happy and calm. If you remain alone, you will perish in this life.
Representatives of the weaker sex who believe the words of their chosen manipulators endure their ultimatums and threats for a long time. They suffer, but are afraid to leave because they do not believe in themselves.
You allow him to be a tyrant and you to be a victim.
This action cannot be called shameful. The fact is that you are compliant and spineless. Your man, on the contrary, is strong, resilient and decisive. It was you who helped him strengthen his leadership qualities. True, to his own detriment.
It's amazing: some ladies are drawn to men who are kind and sweet only on the surface, but cruel and treacherous in their souls. These despots behave gallantly during the affair, but after the wedding they show their true character. That's when the naive ladies become victims.
Oddly enough, this cohabitation gives them a certain bonus: women cry and tirelessly throw mud at their cruel husband. Married women cannot get out of this "hole" because they are afraid of losing their thrills. They can no longer imagine their lives without pain, fear and resentment.
But most importantly, freedom will deprive them of the opportunity to complain about a despotic spouse and present themselves as great martyrs.
Are you also used to beatings and bullying? Get rid of this habit and don't risk your health!
You practically never refuse him anything because of your modesty and indecision.
You can't bring yourself to say the word "no". You are a person who never refuses. And why is that? You don't want your other half to be upset with you.
For the sake of a good relationship, you are ready to fulfill any request of your life partner. You are afraid of the thought that he will think badly of you or find another woman out of bitter disappointment. That is why you try to justify all the expectations of your beloved man and dance to his tune. This sly man uses your reliability for its intended purpose. He does not deny himself anything, puts on you those duties that he himself does not want to perform, makes important decisions without taking into account your opinion. You have turned into a weak-willed doll.
You yourself are disrespectful to him.
Do you think a man is unfair to you? Perhaps he just paid you back in the same coin. Do you treat him like a thing? Are you rude? Do you ignore him? Do you call your chosen one terrible names?
Why are you surprised when you feel all the malice and irritation of your beloved? In this way, he pays you back an old debt. It is unlikely that a man will forgive you for past sins and flare up with the same love for you. Your love has an unhappy ending.
You are lying to him, thereby undermining his trust.
After a lie that has been piling up for a long time, you finally repent and ask the man for forgiveness from the bottom of your heart. He meets you halfway, agrees to keep the love union.
You keep your word, stop lying and upsetting your life partner. But he forgives you for real. Resentment gets stuck in his heart like a thorn.
Hence the anger, the distance, and the disrespect. The man is simply doing you a favor, nothing more. He remembers everything about your deception. This fact gives him the right to humiliate you.
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