Returning to a past relationship: is it worth doing or not?

18.02.2024 05:10

As soon as the emotions fade after a breakup, the brain begins to gradually forget all the negative moments associated with the departed person, leaving only good memories in the memory.

It is then that a person begins to feel melancholy, regrets about the ended relationship appear, and he wants to return to his ex-partner.

There is nothing unusual or condemnatory about this, but before taking this step, it is best to analyze the situation again, weighing all the pros and cons.

When is it worth getting back into a relationship?

  • The man completely analyzed his mistakes, especially those that influenced the breakdown of communication;
  • Having warm feelings or even love for your ex-partner. This does not include dependence on emotions associated with your loved one;
  • A person's willingness to make contact. If there are calls and messages, without clarifying the relationship and claims against each other, this is already a good sign;
  • The first step on his/her part.

There is no need to immediately resume the relationship, it is better to maintain friendly communication and look at the general state of affairs, emotions and conflict moments. If after some time everything moves in a favorable direction, then you can decide on a new stage.

But there are also a number of reasons why you shouldn’t maintain closeness, because it can lead to harmful consequences, even if you feel that you can’t live without this person.

pair
Photo: Pixabay

When not to return a relationship

  1. If the initiative to break up the relationship did not come from you. You are experiencing severe depression, constantly crying, do not want to eat and drive yourself into a corner. And your partner at this moment lives happily and understands that he can return at any moment, even despite his betrayal. This is absolutely unacceptable;
  2. Toxic relationship. Constant reproaches, jealousy, manipulation and even assault. If there is at least one of these reasons, then that's it, taboo;
  3. The presence of betrayal. Even if they beg on their knees, the brain will project this situation every time in any conflict moment, which will cause constant quarrels and problems;
  4. Lack of a joint future. You have been dating for several years, everything is ready to create a marriage, but your partner does not take the initiative to take this step? In this case, they are waiting for a better option, so you should not waste your time on this person.

Remember, true pure and sincere love is built on support, care, mutual understanding and warmth. Constant scandals, emotional dependence, a feeling of uselessness are the antonyms of love.

We previously wrote about the prince on a white horse syndrome .

Author: Sergey Bogdan Editor of Internet resources

Content
  1. When is it worth getting back into a relationship?
  2. When not to return a relationship