No Romance: Why Being a “Savior” in a Relationship Can Be Harmful and How to Avoid It
A person who is always ready to listen and help others is considered kind and sympathetic, but there is a downside.
Sometimes the desire to save everyone around develops into a full-fledged addiction. The problem is especially noticeable in love relationships.
Psychologists call those who try to control another person "saviors". The roots of the problem come from the low self-esteem of the "savior".
Typical "saviors" do for their partner what the partner can do for themselves. Such people exalt themselves "above someone", put their loved one in a lower position.
Psychologists note that "power games" do not lead to anything good. The partner's self-esteem suffers, romance disappears, quarrels and omissions are constant.
However, experts highlight 5 conditions that will help you get rid of the role of the “savior” in a relationship:
1. Complete trust in each other.
2. Agree with your partner on equality. Everyone has the same opportunities to satisfy their needs and desires.
3. Refusal to “play at power and leadership.”
4. The key to a healthy relationship is sincerity and the absence of secrets.
5. Avoid being pushy about helping. Do something for your partner only after he or she asks for it.
Previously, we talked about the cruel treatment of abusers, which has no justification.
