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Love or Manipulation? How to Know if You're in a Toxic Relationship
02.11.2024 05:10
Love can make us feel great, sometimes stupid, or we can fall in love with a partner who manipulates us from the very beginning of our relationship.
A relationship with him can turn into a real nightmare.
The manipulative partner usually grew up in a family where there was misunderstanding between the parents.
Perhaps one of them used his manipulative methods to get what he wanted.
A manipulative partner manipulates outside of love, in relationships with colleagues, friends and relatives.
What are the signs that you are in a relationship with such a person? Here are 10 of them.
Jealousy
Sometimes people are jealous of their partner because of their own insecurities. This is quite natural. But a manipulative partner will use their jealousy to control the other person in the relationship.
He never apologizes or refuses to do so.
A manipulative partner may try to apologize, but not actually apologize.
If you can't remember when your partner apologized in situations where he was wrong, chances are he is manipulating you.
Lack of empathy
Another sign of manipulation in a relationship to watch out for: Your problems and fears are not important to your partner.
He will turn all your fears against you. He may try to blame you, say that you are crazy, that you imagined it all.
Location advantage
If you are in a public place, among relatives, acquaintances, and a small quarrel occurs, pay attention to whether he really wants to argue with you or would prefer to make you the problem person in this matter.
Manipulators often save their arguments for when you are alone so they can dominate.
He doesn't keep his word.
But he always finds excuses to make you feel bad and justifies his behavior every time.
Passive-aggressive behavior
It has many manifestations. You may find that your loved one discusses you in front of relatives and friends, does not want to help with the housework, blames himself for asking for help, while he himself is busy with other things, etc.
Constantly begs for compliments
If your partner looks attractive, you know that he knows it is so, but still frequently tells you how much he dislikes the way he looks, then he is definitely asking you for compliments in order to manipulate you.
He/she takes out his/her insecurities on you.
A manipulative partner may tell you that because he was cheated on in a previous relationship, he doesn't want you to have male/female friends because he's afraid that his disappointment might be repeated in his relationship with you.
Distances you from your friends
This is a very subtle manipulation that goes unnoticed for the longest time. If you, for example, only want to see your friends for a drink, your partner starts to lament how much he will miss you, how he doesn’t go out with his friends so that you can spend more time together, how good you two are together.
Often criticizes you
The manipulator usually has low self-esteem, which he transfers to his other half. He often criticizes, does not support her when she wants to succeed, to build herself as a person.
