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How to understand that your partner is using you: 5 signs
05.11.2024 05:10
How can you tell if a partner in a relationship is seeking benefits and taking advantage of the other's love?
There are often situations when one of the partners deliberately tries to make the other feel guilty.
This is not normal. It is better to leave such relationships as soon as possible or try to influence your partner.
But more often than not, one of the couple still becomes a victim, loses their opinion and stops perceiving many things independently.
Constant apologies
When a person uses a partner, the victim constantly asks for forgiveness. Even if she is not to blame for the quarrel or something else, there will still be requests for forgiveness.
The victim always blames himself for everything, he constantly feels that he is doing something wrong, incorrectly.
Thus, logic is violated, and an innocent person always turns out to be the cause of all troubles.
Inability to make independent decisions
Deciding something on your own becomes a real torment for the victim. When a person faces a choice, he constantly wants to ask his other half how to act correctly.
This happens because that other half always showed how to do things correctly, and if the victim did not listen, scandals and swearing began.
If all actions and decisions are wrong, then the victim stops believing that he has his own opinion and the right to choose.
In such situations, the aggressor gains even more power and almost complete control over the relationship.
Constant frights and continuous fear
It is difficult for the victim to understand what is happening around them and to recognize what exactly is wrong. Often, a person senses a problem, but is unable to formulate it clearly and distinctly.
Instincts stop working due to constant corrections and demands from the aggressor, as well as the lack of one’s own opinion.
Noticeable changes
The person begins to change gradually. Often it is difficult to notice these changes. The victim, due to the slow speed of life restructuring, perceives everything as a normal thing, and in many cases does not suspect these changes.
If a person tries to remember their behavior before the relationship with the aggressor, then the changes can be easily noticed and appropriate conclusions can be drawn.
Closedness
A constant feeling of uselessness, humiliation and anxiety is a wake-up call that there is not the kind of person nearby who is simply using his other half.
Communication with other people becomes less vivid, it is difficult to find common topics and maintain conversations, even on those topics that were previously the closest. It is calmer to be alone with thoughts than in some company.
Getting out of such relationships is difficult in many cases. But if you notice in time that it has become more difficult to make decisions, you don’t want to communicate with others because of your inhibitions, etc., then it’s not too late to save yourself.
