How to get along with children from your partner's first marriage: the main difficulties and their solutions
Starting a new family, especially if there were already children in it, is not an easy task.
We figure out what problems you might encounter and how to solve them.
How to prevent a new family from being destroyed
The first thing you need to firmly understand is that ending an old relationship and starting a new one is strictly an adults’ decision, and no one asked children about it.
Therefore, you need to be understanding if the child does not want to communicate with new family members. You need to give him time and try to find an approach.
If a child does not obey and his parent is in no hurry to limit the boundaries of what is permitted, then the child often begins to question the authority of the new family member.
"You are not my mother/father, so I should listen to you" - often sounds from the mouth of a child. In such a case, you need to discuss with your partner what exactly can be demanded of the child and work on his obedience together.
It also happens that an adult himself cannot accept someone else’s child, and there is nothing shameful about this, since even one’s own children often irritate their parents.
In this case, you just need to give yourself time, because you can’t force someone to be nice, and once you’ve fallen in love with the child’s parent, over time he or she will become no less precious to you than your chosen one.
