How to Build a Relationship with an Older Man: Advice for Women
At least once in her life, every woman has had the misfortune or good fortune to fall in love with a man older than herself.
Moreover, not 5 years older (such a difference is considered small in our society), but 10 years older (cases when a man is 15-20 years older are quite rare and occur mainly due to the absence (deficit) of paternal upbringing in a woman’s life).
So, some people are attracted to such men by their solidity and experience, others by their position, but quite often women value their chosen one’s intellect and the fact that they have something to learn from such a man.
Based on the goals that a woman is guided by when entering into a relationship with a man, these relationships are built in completely different ways.
If a woman tries to maintain such a relationship for some mercenary reasons, she will make every effort to ensure that the man feels comfortable with her and that he does not have even a shadow of a doubt that she is using him.
Relationships become much more complicated when a woman openly demonstrates not only her financial independence, but also her feelings for her chosen one.
The second point: do not expect that your man’s usual behavior will change for the better, that you will be able to re-educate him.
In the case of a man much older than you, this is impossible. Therefore, take a closer look, and if you are happy with everything as it is, you can continue the relationship; if not, it may even be better to break up right away; because if he did not give you flowers for no reason, if he did not write romantic letters, if he did not devote enough time to you, none of this will happen in the future.
Then you just need to understand and accept the person as he is, and even better, try to learn to speak the language of love that he understands. Perhaps these are not gifts, not words of love, but help and care (like an ironed shirt or a dinner cooked on time). Then, I am sure, he will reciprocate and will definitely do something nice for you.
And lastly: in our difficult times, when everyone and everywhere is trying to gain an advantage, in the head of any man there is a thought that a woman also wants to use him in something, even if you have an apartment, a car, and a fur coat, after all. Sometimes, the more independent you seem, the more suspicions arise about your practicality.
I advise you not to even think about it and not to try to prove the opposite. It is better to always remember that no one owes anything to anyone. If you love - love! Remain yourself - in the end, it will be appreciated!
