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How can a person stop taking everything to heart?
18.09.2024 05:10
In the modern world there are people who, by their nature, take numerous problems too closely to heart.
Even those that are not connected with them in any way, or those where they cannot even influence the course of the decision. And if we consider that each person is also subject to daily stress...
It can be said that people with a delicate mental organization are at the greatest risk of getting a nervous breakdown, depression and other psychological illnesses. Therefore, let's take a detailed look at how to stop taking everything to heart.
Accept yourself
The first and most important thing to do in such a difficult situation is to accept yourself. That is, allow yourself to be the kind of person who worries too much about every little thing. Why is this so important?
The fact is that when a person denies his nature, begins to limit himself and create a strictly opposite image, this only increases stress.
So why give yourself unnecessary problems? Accept yourself as you are. This way you can get rid of 50% of your daily stress.
Learn to control/minimize stress
"Don't be nervous, and everything in your life will be fine!" is a wonderful call that is almost impossible to implement in life. Therefore, instead of reproaching yourself for excessive stress, learn practices that will help minimize it.
This way you will preserve your health and blame yourself less. There are many, many stress control/minimization techniques. You can choose any that suit you.
Just keep in mind that some techniques require special space and preparation (for example, meditation or yoga). And others may be inconvenient for the people around you (for example, aromatherapy or saying affirmations out loud). Therefore, find a compromise between these two sides.
Don't blame yourself
Those people who take problems too seriously begin to blame themselves for something. Even if it is not related to the problem.
For example, a colleague was scolded by the boss, and you began to blame yourself for poorly controlling the quality of your work. Accept the fact that no one in the world is perfect. And if you realized that you are doing your job poorly, then do not blame yourself.
Better yet, mentally thank your manager and your colleague for helping you realize this long before any trouble happened. Remember that gratitude gives strength, while baseless accusations take it away.
Work with your environment
The biggest problem is that we are used to just existing. Because we are afraid that we will not be able to communicate with anyone anymore. But here it is worth understanding one simple thing: you do not live in a closed space.
Therefore, you can always, at any time, start communicating with people you find interesting.
Therefore, you should not tolerate a "toxic" environment when there are people nearby who will inspire you to work feats. The same applies to work: if you feel that you cannot "grow" in this position or you are not appreciated as an employee, then you should look for another place of work. Or even risk working exclusively for yourself.
Work on your self-esteem
Self-esteem is a kind of “protective barrier” thanks to which we can protect ourselves from negatively minded individuals.
Remember that only by recognizing your strengths and weaknesses can you build effective and constructive communication with people around you. So start actively working on your self-esteem.
This will help you “filter” all situations that cause stress: criticism directed at you, “polite requests” from colleagues/manager, some conflicts and quarrels, and so on.
