The modern stereotype of a woman ready for a long-term adult relationship is the psychological stability of a strong mature personality and the absence of infantilism.
These 10 signs listed are necessary for building long-term harmonious family relationships. Without them, long-term harmonious adult relationships are impossible.
So, 10 main qualities for which a psychologically mature man values and respects his chosen one, and how she differs from infantile ladies.
This is a self-esteem that is neither too high nor too low, adequate. This is expressed in the fact that she does not try to assert herself by humiliating others, children, colleagues at work, relatives. That is, she is confident in herself, does not humiliate others in order to feel better, to feel her own importance.
A psychologically mature woman takes it upon herself. She is not afraid to make important decisions, to take responsibility for her children.
Can make decisions independently, for example, change career, field of activity, despite public opinion and expectations. Her actions are based on her own values and beliefs.
A woman plans her life systematically. And even if she is left alone without a husband, she will be able to cope with it. In difficult circumstances, she does not faint, but calmly makes a balanced decision.
This is evidence that she is capable of logical and strategic planned thinking, that is, she sees the prospects and consequences of her actions, understands what will happen to her tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, a week later, a month later, a year later. She writes down and sets goals, knows and understands who she is, her needs and implements them according to plan.
For example, being a qualified doctor, he decides to run a channel on YouTube, opens a personal account, and then plans to recruit a staff.
Develops a business plan, relying on herself, not on someone else, and does it independently. This is adult behavior. Does not hide behind the boss and does not burden her husband with the implementation of personal plans and tasks that do not concern the family.
An adult and mature personality controls emotions. In some cases, demonstrating helplessness and sacrifice can help, a man begins to feel like a knight who rushes to save an unfortunate defenseless victim.
It is inherent in him by nature. But demonstration of helplessness and hysteria are incompatible concepts. It is important to distinguish them. And not to overdo it. Fights, hysterics, inadequate spontaneity are unacceptable.
Of course, people are subject to different feelings and emotional outbursts. The peculiarity of an emotionally mature personality is that it can resolve a conflict and come to an agreement with itself.
She can use the help of a psychologist if necessary, but the immature one will follow her own feelings and make a mess. The result is a difficult situation and even the destruction of life.
Therefore, to prevent this from happening, emotions must be controlled, they must be analyzed and monitored. Do not get stuck in an anxious-depressive state and know how to manage stress, pull yourself together.
If necessary, calmly and consciously go to cognitive behavioral therapy to work through negative states.
She chooses a psychologically mature man. That is, this is a different level of understanding life goals, a different level of relationships - not "daughter-dad" or "daughter-son". This is a relationship between two adults.
Understands the need to establish boundaries in relationships. Says "no" to protect his or her interests. For example, does not hesitate to decline an unwanted offer while maintaining self-respect.
In a sense, empathy and tolerance do not exist without each other. For example, with cognitive empathy, a person understands how to behave, but cannot emotionally join in.
He knows the rules of conduct, that you can’t offend the weak, the disadvantaged, but at the same time he doesn’t feel anything.
Able to forgive herself and others. Realizes that holding on to grievances and anger is harmful to herself.
Can come to terms with past mistakes and move forward with an open heart. Can understand the feelings and needs of others, maintain and create harmonious relationships. For example, understands a colleague who is in a difficult situation.
Self-awareness and personal growth. Taking care of mental and physical health.
Strives for self-knowledge and personal growth. Knows his goals, values, works on himself. And this is not only spiritual development, but also care for physical and mental health.
He exercises and devotes time to rest and recovery.
She accepts and loves herself. She does not give in to external standards of beauty and values personal uniqueness. She has an individual style and lifestyle, and is not influenced by social stereotypes.
Able to adapt to changes and remain flexible in different circumstances. For example, adapts to new changes in career or personal life.
Always ready for dialogue. "Darling, let's discuss this, let's talk about this...", does not interrupt, listens to the partner, does not impose her opinion.
Acts like a smart person, calls for constructive dialogue to come to a common decision, draw conclusions and find a way out of a crisis situation. Supports and inspires the partner, rather than reproaching and humiliating.
A person who has these qualities is not only psychologically mature, but also wise. And this helps to maintain and develop healthy relationships with your man or husband in the family.