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Is your child not listening? Simple recommendations that will help to correct the situation
22.04.2024 13:10
Most parents complain that their children are disobedient and do not do what they are told.
The thing is, all children are stubborn, but there is always a way to make them listen to you, understand and do what you ask them to do.
Before becoming a parent, you probably never imagined that going to the store with a child would take an hour instead of 10 minutes, that dressing a running child would burn more calories than a workout at the gym, or that leaving a playground would require diplomacy and a solid dose of patience. In other words, parenting is the highest form of politics and commerce.
If you use the right techniques, you will become a friend to your child, not an enemy. This means that the likelihood that he will listen to you and do what you tell him is much higher. And all this without unnecessary fuss and wasting time.
Parents' mistakes and incorrect phrases that upset a child
"Don't touch that!"
In general, any phrase that begins with the word "No" makes the child do exactly what the parent does not want. It is certainly difficult to give up the word "no", but avoid it if possible. When a child hears "Don't touch that!", he does not understand why.
It is better to say another phrase, for example: "Oh, how dirty!" or "Dirt, be careful!" This way, the child does not receive a prohibition, but a warning, and the likelihood that he will hear you and really "not touch it" is much higher.
"Go, right now!"
If you want to leave a park, playground, etc. and force your child to come with you, such a request is often met with a counterattack from a stubborn child.
A better phrase to use is: "I'm going to play with your toys at home, will you come?" or "I'm thinking of going to the store, will you help me pay my aunt at the checkout?" Offering a more interesting alternative usually works wonders.
"Brush your teeth!"
Brushing teeth, washing hands, getting dressed, putting on shoes - all these are things that sometimes require too much persuasion and waste too much energy and patience. So here too you need to be more cunning. Instead of saying, "Brush your teeth!" ask the child, "Do you want me to brush your doll's teeth first, and then yours?"
When it comes to dressing, let your child choose his own outfit for the day. This will make him feel important and will make him want to dress more. Changing into pajamas will also not be a problem for you if you dress dolls and toys first and put them to bed.
"Pick up your toys!"
Most children refuse, and many parents don't bother to persuade them to clean up and pick up all the scattered things themselves. However, this spoils the children, and therefore you are not doing yourself or your child a favor.
If your child doesn't want to pick up his toys, say to him in a calm tone: "Oh, if you're throwing your toys around like that and won't pick them up, then you obviously don't like them.
"I guess I'll put them in a box and leave them by the trash can, maybe some kid will like them and play with them. Or maybe I'll give them to a kindergarten so that all the kids in your group can play with them!" This usually triggers the selfishness that is typical of early childhood, and the child will rather collect his toys than share them with other children.
"Eat your lunch!"
Eating is a real challenge for many parents and children. It can be quite difficult to stimulate their appetite, but it is possible.
For example, invite your child to participate in preparing the meal. Also ask your child what to add to make the meal more delicious. Just let your child put the food on the plate.
Offer him to share his dinner with toys. But if your child refuses to eat, and you are sure that he likes the food, do not insist. Say that if he does not want to, then you, dad or his toys will eat his portion. This tactic does not always work, but sometimes it is very useful.
Getting your child to do what you ask is not easy. But with patience and a little cunning, you will get the results you want.
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