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Don't Proceed: 9 Dangerous Signals on a First Date
19.02.2024 04:00
Updated: 12.05.2024 23:40
People have different attitudes towards first dates – some love them, others can’t stand them.
Even if you've been on a lot of first dates, it can be hard to spot the warning signs.
The following obvious signs may mean that further communication is not worth continuing.
Negative talk about an ex-partner
Talking about your ex is not the best idea on a date. But if your new lover is not mincing words and intentionally insulting someone they once dated or lived with, you should end the date.
There is a big chance that this will happen to you too. So there is only one piece of advice here – run!
Constant complaints
Every person on the first date wants to feel comfortable with their new chosen one. But if the new acquaintance starts to constantly complain about everything and everyone, then this indicates his negative and even unhealthy attitude to life.
Of course, you can justify this by shyness or worries, but if this continues throughout the entire meeting, you should not continue to maintain contact with such an individual.
Being late without a valid reason
We are not talking about being 10 minutes late, because there could have been an emergency or a traffic jam on the way. It is a different matter if the partner arrived an hour or two later without explaining the delay.
This is something to think about and consider whether this is the person you want to be in a relationship with. If he or she is regularly late without warning you in advance, you may be wasting your time.
Date with the phone
The object of desire came to a date with a phone and constantly sits on it? Firstly, this is a very impolite sign, and secondly, a sign of indifference.
Sitting at a table for a few hours without a gadget isn't such a big deal, right?
Selfie on the first date
Confidence and kindness are attractive character traits. But it’s a different matter if the partner is extremely open and imposes contact with everyone, and also takes selfies with them without their consent. Unfortunately, such a person does not know about social norms and personal boundaries.
Too much alcohol
People go on dates to find a life partner, not a child who needs constant care.
Yes, men and women like to show care and attention to the object of their interest, but not to bring their partner home drunk. Constant drinking is perceived as disrespect, bad behavior or addiction...
Gossip about someone
Negative comments about exes are a huge red flag, but this applies to other people too.
Ridiculing or gossiping about parents, siblings, friends, and coworkers are all signs that you are dealing with a narcissist. These people are insecure and gain self-esteem by ridiculing others.
Lack of personal opinion
If a person shifts decisions regarding an order or a meeting place to you, then this indicates low self-esteem and a lack of their own opinion.
It will be difficult to rely on such a person in life. The main thing here is not to confuse complete lack of initiative with a sense of tact and a desire to please. It is necessary to take a closer look and understand, and perhaps even create an artificial situation in which a decision must be made.
Talking about yourself
It often happens that a person tells his entire life story on the first date. Changing the topic to ease the awkward atmosphere does not help.
He is not interested in you, does not ask questions and does not even listen. Unfortunately, such a person is definitely not suitable for life, since his own ego is above all else for him.
Earlier we wrote about the phrases you can use to defend your personal boundaries.
