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Cheating: What It Means, Why It Happens, and Should You Forgive
24.02.2024 04:00
Updated: 12.05.2024 23:28
Due to the fact that it is extremely difficult to survive betrayal, the question of forgiving the cheater is acute and not at all simple.
Most men and women who have cheated eventually realize their mistake and try to fix everything, assuring that this will not happen again. Should we believe them? What can we expect from a person who has once committed betrayal?
What can be considered treason?
Physical intimacy is the main sign of cheating. For some, physical intimacy is kissing and hugging, while for others, it's just sex. And for some, it won't be cheating at all.
With the advent of social networks and virtual communication, intimate conversations, sharing candid photos, videos, and fantasies have become fashionable. And this can also be considered cheating.
This is the case when there is no fact of betrayal, but under certain circumstances virtual partners would merge in real ecstasy. Therefore, it is necessary to think about whether it is worth continuing such a relationship in principle.
Why do people cheat?
Without taking into account forced betrayals, betrayals under the influence of alcohol and fleeting affairs, one can name a more significant reason for going to the side: one of the partners has lost passion and attraction. In this case, he begins to think about betrayal at the very least.
If the line is crossed and he enters into a forbidden relationship, then he draws energy from something new for himself, forgetting about the person who loves him. At the same time, the second partner cannot even imagine someone next to him.
Some of the more stupid reasons for cheating include:
- The betrayal happened due to the fault of the one with whom the betrayal was committed. The cheater talks about how he was deceived, how his head was turned, and many other similar tales. By the way, he or she often believes them themselves and convinces the partner of this.
- The betrayal happened because of the one who is being betrayed. The cheater reproaches his partner for inattention, callousness, coldness and lack of sexual relations. At the same time, the one who was betrayed really begins to believe that the betrayal is only his fault, recognizing the holiness of the cheater himself. Paradox!
When can you turn a blind eye to betrayal?
When there is mutual desire, especially the desire of the one who was cheated on. If he has truly forgiven and is ready to suppress the resentment, if he will not reproach the one who cheated, then you can get back together.
At the same time, it would be nice to cool down and live separately, to realize and weigh everything, to show the cheater the value of the relationship and loyalty to each other.
It is necessary to make it clear to the cheater that he alone is to blame. He bears the burden of responsibility for the reunion first and foremost: let him do things and say nice words, thus admitting his guilt. It is impossible to allow any thought that the betrayed partner is the root cause of the betrayal.
And, of course, when you take the cheater back, you need to understand that everything has changed and will not be the same. The family, like a boat in the ocean, will be rocked and tossed from side to side for a long time.
Earlier we wrote about the mistakes women make in marriage.
